He doesn't want me, but doesn't want anyone else to have me.

Hey! Soo this story has been happening for a year and a half and I really need some outside advice.

Background info… I met this guy when I started my job a year and a half ago and fancied him instantly – unusually because he wasn’t my type – we chatted the first time we met for an hour, even though his shift had finished, asking me to come to work drinks that Friday after. We never exchanged numbers and I couldn’t make that day, so I was never able to say that i wasn’t coming. That night he kissed another girl from work – who happened to be my friend. The following day at work the flirting continued and we exchanged numbers, and he wanted to go for a drink sometime – cutting a short story short the drinks never happened. All of a sudden a lot of rumours went around about us and he blew up at me – I was still unaware that he had kissed the other girl until a fair few months after. The rumours continued and we only talked for a bit every now and then and I admit to being very forward at the time and that was due to me just being young haha and when looking back now is just so cringy. We began talking all the time and after the last Christmas began talking every day, all day. My birthday went past in the November and he came and introduced himself to my family etc. giving me false interpretations of the situation. We ended up hooking up together for the first time in a very drunken way. We have hooked up a lot and are very clearly attracted to each other. I feel like we were in an unofficial relationship. We have had many conversations when he has said that he is only interested in being friends, but nothing more; then he will make the first move to kiss me, or grab my hand when walking down the street, pay for dinner, tell me I’m beautiful etc. But then on the same token will tell me about the other girls he has hooked up with, and a girl that he would “like to ruin” and call me “bro” along with the usual “babes” “Hun”. Completely fucking my head up.

I recently met someone else in an attempt to accept the situation and move on, but when he found out he became jelouse and very nasty. He went out of his way to break us up, because he knows how to push me to get me to be unfaithful or fall deeper for him. We recently have had many arguments where I have said I’ve had enough of him and he every time will say he cares for me and wants us to be friends. It is awkward because we do work together and I’ve had him in my life as someone I turn to for a year and a half.

I am usually a very confident girl and very comfortable with flirting, and tbh the only reason the attraction began was because I am use to get boys if I want them, and he wouldn’t give it up. However over this last year I haven’t looked at another boy because ive felt like I’m cheating etc. apart from recently.

His signals are so confusing and I really need some advice…

Thankyou

Also why would he not want me but refuse to see me happy?