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Anna
Need advice… what to do??
We have been together 1 year. I’m 53 and he is 56. Both in good health. Have had a very satisfying sex life up until a few months ago.
In April he took a job in my area (he does construction) and I let him stay with me in my home. To help him out and as a trial for a permanent living situation.
Everything is GREAT! Except he has no interest in sex anymore. He is affectionate (tells me he loves me all the time) spends lots of time with me, helps out financially, has been doing upgrades/repairs to my home in the evenings and weekends (that he says are for us), and talks that he would like our new living arrangement to be permanent. But at night he falls into bed, complaining that his shoulder or some body part is bothering him and that he’s exhausted. He has a very physically demanding job, but even on the weekends he has no interest in being physical. I have discussed this with him and he says it’s just his job that is making him tired and the pain in his shoulder is killing his sex drive. I don’t know that I believe that….. any advice would be appreciated.ColleenHi Anna,
I’m kinda in the same situations.
I’m finding that a lot men over 50 have a drop in there sexual drive. His testosterone is probably dropping because he is older. But is sonds like he really cares for you because he is helping you and making future plans. 😊
I wish they had more advice on dating over 50.
Maybe you can help him buy giving him a massage and let him rest and see where it leads 😉AnonSo he’s working a tough job of manual labor, fixing up your house, and has moved in with you. He’s probably settling into a comfortable routine and is completely exhausted. However if there is a drastic change in his sex drive, that would be a concern and something to possibly talk about. I know older men have issues, but something else seems off.
T from NYI was in a marriage with very little sex for two decades. It was horror. If he won’t address the issue with you – you either accept the man as he is or leave it. I don’t care how hard a man works, does repairs on my house or talks about a future – physical intimacy is a deal breaker for me. You have to figure out if it is for you, then act accordingly.
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