he forgot about our date

Did he try to reschedule? If not, then it looks a bit of a blow off to me. If youre busy you can forget a date, i dont think it says low interest per se, but he would have at least included an effort for a retry

He forgot in advance and he asked if we could still meet .
Basically he usually messages on the day of the date to confirm what time and where but it usually early in the morning. This time he messaged around 2 PM ( I live in UK) and he said he completely forgot and added: is it too late now ? To which I didn’t respond as I don’t even know what to say.
He told me on date 3 he is forgetful but like some of you said 4th date I would expect someone to be excited enough to remember lol I guess he isn’t Haha I will also add we didn’t have sex yet or anything like that

Sounds like it did slip his mind and he was still trying to confirm. So he forgot to inform you about a tome etc but not really the date itself

We only had 3 dates so I am aware he might be dating others etc
He is a doctor so very busy with work also .
So those 3 dates were usually once a week we only met mid May .
He has cancelled on me once before but quickly rescheduled. So I am not really that keen anymore

If he was a med student this would be a slightly different convo. And maybe it depends on where this guy is practicing and what his hours are — but dating someone in the medical field requires a lot more patience. I am not excusing bad behavior whatsoever — but the reality is — some of these people are just literally worked to exhaustion and dating is put on the back burner. He has not completely emotionally bonded with you yet so don’t take it personally (unless he is an older gentleman with a really set schedule he’s been doing for years)

If you like him I would get over your pride and just answer something back like — I appreciate your candor. I look forward to seeing you again. Then spend more time with him. Trust in knowing he will SHOW you who he is in due time. We do not have all the facts yet. I think it is good you are turned off. That means you respect yourself. But we do not know yet if this man is a player or just genuinely attempting to hold his life together.

I dated someone for 2 years (last year medical school, 1 year residency) and it’s very different from dating someone not in those fields. Requires a whole lot more understanding and flexibility depending on the doctors position. Also doctors are surrounded by women throwing themselves at them so many do not have the inclination or feel the incentive to commit. Personally I would not date anyone again in the medical field but that’s just me. I support whatever you decide. He put his foot in his mouth admitting he forgot. But I’m of the opinion we do not know if he’s a good guy or a flake just yet.

You know I understand at this point (only 4 dates ) I am not priority and he might have other things going on his life . But the fact he said he forgot just put me off cause in my eyes if I forgot about a date with someone It would just mean I am not really into that person no matter how busy my life is .
I am just going to leave it as it is as I guess I want someone less forgetful and more excited about seeing me . But thank you for your responses 🙂🙂

Here is what I texted under a similar scenario:

Hi Bob! Thanks for reaching out. Unfortunately, when I did not hear from you, I made other plans. I look forward to a rain check some other time!

Or you could call him out gently if you want to:

Hi Bob! Thanks for reaching out. Unfortunately, when I did not hear from you, I made other plans. As to forgetting – ouch ;-). It seems that your schedule may not be the most conducive to dating right now. I would love to hear from you for a raincheck when things open up a bit :-)!

in actual fact he messaged later saying he is sorry, he had to re-read the messages to remember we arranged something!
I don’t act like a princess but I kinda want more from a man. there are things I did not like about him like he talks to every woman he meets, even when we were on a date I went to toilet and he went to buy drinks I came back and he was chatting up another woman…

not my thing that’s all

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PS – ellie – despite these meanies – I agree that he did apologize and being flexible is most likely the best way to handle it. My example was a man who waited till 5 pm and had not heard from him in a few days. I usually wait that long.

And with that – goodbye all you mean bitches, best of luck with your life of meanness and absolute sadness.

perhaps he is and that is fine if he is dating other women as I am no longer interested :)