He forgot my birthday

Yes you overreacted. Birthdays are for little kids.

Andrea, yes, I agree that having an argument wasn’t a good idea, I went to bed sad that day, I felt unvalued, and I woke up mad, and I texted him impulsively. Initially I was polite, but when he said I was overreacting, it pissed me off even more.

Anne, I disagree there, I think noone wants to be forgotten on the birthday, specially if the one who forgets you is your boyfriend, it can be a very hurting feeling.

I totally understand where Sarah is coming from. Birthdays and special dates are important to her. Something her boyfriend should know after 3 years. And when she voiced out her concerned her boyfriend pushed it aside like it’s nothing but infact it means a lot to HER. Some of us might not give two sh*t about these things but she does and felt sad about it. Her feelings are valid. I personally care for these things because they are opportunities to make the one you love feel extra special and remembered. It keeps things sweet and gives quality to bonds in relationships.

Anyway since it’s the first time he forgot it maybe his mind got preoccupied. He at least gave you a gift and according to him it was a “just because gift” which shows he still thinks about you to go that extra mile. Give him a pass for this one. Dont make it a bigger deal at this point as it can lead to more drama in your relationship. I’m sure he feels bad but dont make him feel sh*ttier for it you know what I mean? Happy belated by the way. :)

Meant ‘stupid’ not ‘super’…its stupid to argue over it.

Lane, who are you to say who birthdays are for? That is your opinion and does not apply to all. I completely understand why Sarah is upset. It’s one day a year for him to do something a little bit special. And he blew it. Not the end of the world but not cool.

Really? Everyone would be so cool with it? I wouldn’t. He apologized. So what, was she supposed to say ‘ok, if you’re sorry, it’s no big deal’. And it’s not about texting ‘happy birthday’. My boyfriend has a whole special day, expensive dinner at least, last year it was a concert, and gifts, planned for me, every year. I can’t imagine him just forgetting that it was my birthday, he seems to be planning it for weeks.

And again, I mentioned it before, I don’t like this reasoning that men don’t like arguing women. Guess what, women don’t like forgetful men. If something is bothering you, you cannot just pretend that everything is fine, that would be even more unhealthy that an argument. I’m not talking about unnenecssary drama or prolonged fights, but nothing wrong with voicing your concerns, if you’re upset, you’re upset and your feelings are valid.

If a relationship only needed 2 days a year (birthday and anniversary) to treat your partner special I’ve been doing it all wrong for over 20 years! My wife and I treat each other like special people nearly every day. I don’t need her to buy me a gift for it either.

I’m glad even when we were younger we didn’t buy into all that crap, especially Valentine’s day. I guess some people grow up and others don’t.