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Georgia
Ok so I went out on a first date last week. It was great! (For me anyway) Lasted way longer than I expected and there was definitely mutual chemistry, all laughs and good flowing conversation.
He text me the next day, just general chit chat, inside jokes from our date but no talk of a second date. The day after I initiated conversation, just casual how was your day etc to which he replied within the hour, normal chat, again no mention of another meet up. But this time his responses were quite short and not as engaging as previous. Then I was busy for a few days didn’t really have time to talk to him anyway but he didn’t message me either so I didn’t want to initiate anything. Yesterday I received a Facebook request from him. I waited until today to accept, but still no message from him.
Are there any guys out there or girls with similar experience that can shed some light. At first I thought maybe he was just being polite texting me so soon after the date, (as it was a little colder) but I’m wondering if he was going to do the ‘phase out’ would he really friend request me? Should I wait for him to get back in touch? Or should I initiate something?
Thanks!marie
Waite for him to initiate, I would not be concerned right now, after all, you don’t want a guy to come on too strong, get you overly invested only to cool off and become distant. A good slower pace is much better.
Pace yourself, and keep your expectations low, you don’t really know this guy just yet, so do not start acting like you are in a relationship. Too often we start acting like the girlfriend way too soon, and that never works.
Be more chill, and laid back, and let him wonder if you are interested in him. Men prefer women who they see as a challenge, and not women who seem too eager.
Miss_Aspiring
I agree with Marie. Do not initiate. If he fades, let him — but at this point, it sounds like he is still interested.
Rose
Adding someone on social media can mean nothing at all. I’ve had men add me to not speak to me at all. It’s sooooo very weird I delete them and move on.
Others add you but still only want to casual sate, like they just like having like a million chicks as FB friends.
Anyways, wait for him to contact you and see what happens.
Rose
Casual date*
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