He has a girlfriend, I need to move on…

You say you are not a homewrecker, but as soon as you knew he had a girlfriend you should have stopped talking to him, since you said you had feelings for him from the beginning. At that point I would have distanced myself and kept it strictly platonic/professional.
I feel sorry for the girlfriend here.
I try to never do anything to someone else I don’t want done to me. How would you feel if you were in her shoes?
He doesn’t sound like a very good guy either. Trust me, this is a glimpse into his character. If someone does it to someone else, he would have done it to you-had you been together. A leopard generally doesn’t change it’s spots.
You really don’t have any right to be upset with him for cutting off contact with you. Both of you were in the wrong.
I don’t know if he finally realized he truly loves his GF, and the thought of losing her was a wakeup call. But it doesn’t matter.
Please use this as a learning experience of what not to do in the future. Just be professional if you see him at work and keep your distance.

I stopped reading about halfway through so I haven’t read the rest but my question is, why would you want more with a man who is cheating on his girlfriend with you? He would do the same to you if you were his girlfriend.

Allie sweetheart. This is a sad situation and clearly you are hurt, sorry to see that. What I”m about to say is meant kindly and to help you learn, not to be critical of you. I get that you are young. Take this as a learning opportunity and you won’t have to experience it again. That’s the good side.

For some reason you have spent 2 years in an imaginary “relationship” with an unavailable man. Why? Because this is all TEXT. In my book text is evil and should be stopped except for logistical purposes! I understand you are young and this is how your generation communicates. Thing is, it doesn’t create real relationships, whether it be with a man or anyone.

The bottom line is, no “relationship” of any kind should go on in text. It isn’t the real world. And now you are left hurting because your text “fix” with him is gone. It’s gotten to be kind of an addiction for you, can you see? I repeat, this is not real, never has been and is an addiction.

He shouldn’t have done this but he kept this up because you allowed it to go on. Texting is easy. He’s had you e-tethered for 2 years… because you did not for whatever reason put a stop to it, which of course you now understand you should have. That is why the commenters above are putting the responsibility on you. And I never use the world fault, I use the word responsibility.

Let’s be honest… you were looking for more than friends and I suspect you still are. I have no judgment on you for that. Just re-read your posts and admit it to yourself, and then you can get free of this. You have lingering feelings for him that could come back when you see him? My dear girl, you don’t really know this man. This is all a fantasy in your head… that I’m not sure you are really ready to let go of, unfortunately. My hope is that by getting all this off your chest on an anonymous forum, you will feel better and get some useful insights.

The question now moving forward is, how do you deal in real world relationships only. Is there something preventing you from doing that? Traumatic experience? If so, then best to deal with it so this doesn’t happen again.

Best wishes for a happier future honey.

Ok, so you’re both to blame here. Being flirty is inevitable.
It HURTS like hell to be cut off or to cut someone off. I had the same problem and I’ve been there.
I think you both already acknowledged that what you were doing was wrong. He stopped it. And you’re having trouble moving on.

Just think, if the guy really liked you, no amount of blocking or screening of phone calls will shut him off. He’ll be after you for sure even if you don’t want him to. Heck, even break up with his girlfriend just to be with you. But he didn’t do that. You miss him for the good conversations, the flirty texts, the emotional connection (supposedly), but you’re also missing someone who has not really done anything but flood you with sweet words.

It’s all about the mindset here. Would you really like to be hung up on this guy? You think of him 24/7 when most likely he’s in the arms of his girlfriend. It’s sickening, I know, but it’s the truth.

Even if he suddenly pops up with “hi” just ignore him. Don’t make yourself second best.Unless he broke up with his gf, he’s just taking advantage of you. And try to keep your cool when you see him.

Allie im gonna be blunt. U should have stopped talking to him the moment you found out he had a gf, for one thing this day was gonna come as of course at some point the gf would find out or it would just get a bit tricky for this to be sustained. You could have saved yourself the hurt u are going through now by stopping it sooner and the pain would have been less. Another thing is why are you not dating other guys and not giving this a second of your time ? You have put yourself on hold waiting for this guy, dont ever do that, if a guy makes you wait theres a good chance he will never be ready and u can only ever be a side piece. Men pursue hard what they want, theres no wait or confusion and i dont get why girls dont understand this. Another thing is the bad karma, how would you feel if you had a bf but some other girl was trying to get it on with him. Its not good stuff to put out there i believe negative attracts negative and you put this out it will come back. A guy like this does not deserve the time of day. Just an immature bou that had you feeding his ego and then got bored of it, this was never going anywhere. Now get out and date single men and forget all about this stupid guy. x

*correction: “Both of you are not allowing yourselves to be the best person that each other deserves”

This is a two year old post. OP is long gone.

And anyone who cheats on someone else shows a serious lapse in character and judgement. Poor character means someone will repeat this kind of behavior. Best thing to do is learn the lesson, take the high road, and never have anything toy do with a creep like this again.

If you choose to proceed, and ingore the very real read flags and obvious warning signals, you get what you deserve. You burn your a$$, you sit on the blisters.

OMG… You have deep deep feelings for a lying cheater?!