He hasn't asked me out yet

Just wanted to add: After we exchanged numbers he said something about how women in the past will stop texting/calling him. Apparently texting and calling are big to him. He also said something about seeing if I was consistent. That’s why I feel like I’m being tested. Ladies, I honestly don’t know how to feel about that. I’ve never had a guy say anything like that before. I pretty much brushed it aside but now that he’s yet to ask me out it’s making me wonder.

Oh and I never really initiate contact as I don’t have to.

Do you all think there’s something wrong with this?

if you are consistent, which it sounds like you are because you want him to ask you out, then there is nothing more you can do on your end. when he contacts you, and you talk back… that’s all you can do. if he doesn’t ask you out because he is insecure or whatever despite the fact you always respond to him, then there’s still nothing you can do because that’s his issue

I figured if he doesn’t ask me out eventually some other guy will.

The rush was just me feeling like I’m wasting time

I agree with Ashley. I wouldn’t ask him anything.

I did this little experiment recently that worked wonders. I talked to multiple guys I might be interested in dating. This stemmed from online dating for me but you could also do it with meeting people organically. The ones I was interested in I talked to, but that was the extent of my work in things. I didn’t initiate texts and I didn’t suggest dates.

I found that the guys who wanted to put in little/no effort were weeded out and because I was talking to about 5 guys at the time my feelings didn’t get hurt when things didn’t pan out. I ended up meeting two our of the five. Both great guys, who were putting in the time and effort to show me they were interested (ei. asking me out for dates). I’m only dating one of the guys now. (The other, still great, but attraction wasn’t there.)

I’m telling you this because I use to have the same mentality of focusing on one guy and then feeling disappointed when they weren’t everything Id hoped. And even though I’m only dating the one now, I’m still keeping my new mentality, I’m enjoying our time but not getting too attached. Everything has to be earned.

I understand what you must be going through. I’ve had this happened to me before and i made the mistake of waiting around for him which in turn hurt me in the long run. So i learned from my experience that you should keep your options open and not get attached. Keep your conversations with him light because if you guys don’t work out then you can just move on without exposing yourself too much to him. I don’t let guys get to know me too much without them investing in me. Only talk to him 2-3 times a week and go on other dates. Don’t stalk him on social media. Avoid getting infatuated with him. When your time and emotional investment is low, you’ll be fine if it doesn’t work out in the end.

For now treat him like you do any of your other friends.

I’ll definitely keep my options open. I won’t put in more effort than he is and set no expectations.

@Vanessa yeah, I was thinking the same thing. I’m think I’m going to do the slow fade out.

okay, well i’m kind of confused bc i am going through almost the same situation. i met this guy around like December and well we noticed each other waaay before, and he thought i was cute and so did i. but we didn’t really talk bc i was in a relationship at the time, but once he found out it was over we started talking, at first we were just talking like normal friends… then it got more flirty.. he called me “baby, babe bae” and all that and well he was telling me that it was only me for him and that he really wanted to ask me out, but i told him it was too early, and that we should wait a little more and he agreed, he even said he would wait bc he wanted things too work out better for us, and well he was we were just “heavy talking” i claimed him and he claimed me.. i actually thought we were gonna end up together. and well he would give me sooo much attention. he worked and he had like 4 breaks and he would text me EVERY TIME he had the chance to. he made sure i heard from him. and well it was just really nice.. but then things started to change.. he drifted away from me and he barely texted/ texts ( i am currently still in the same situation) me and well i just feels like he doesnt care anymore. like he doesnt care if we talk or not. if we see each other, hes just careless about me. about “us” and i have talked to him about MANY times, but i have a lot of pride in myself and i don’t like to repeat myself. but well he says he still likes me or whatever but hes not showing anything at all. and well one of my closest friends told me something her boyfriend told her about about the guy i like and she told me that he said that hes like basically scared of me. that he doesn’t want me to move on fast, or to talk to anyone else and hes scared to trust me bc of his past relationships and he doesn’t want me to disappoint him.. that he just doesn’t want to lose me, but hes not doing anything to keep me?? i’m so confused. bc at times hes into a conversation and at times hes not, at times hes so dry with me. like ive proved myslef to him in sooo many ways, and ive done so much for him and so did he, but he just changed all of a sudden. i dont know what happened. i just don’t know what to do, many people have told me to move on, but i really like this guy and i feel like there’s a reason why i haven’t moved on. its like there is something about him that always brings me back to him and i don’t know what it is, i try to figure it out but i just cant. i don’t know what it is about him that just wont allow me to let go. and its driving me crazy.. help please !