He hasn’t ended BUT has gone no contact, without telling me

I don’t understand why people need to hash stuff out via text? It’s the worst way to have a discussion with someone and why its the TOP TWO reasons (trying to sex a man into a relationship is the other) so many relationships fail today because human’s are incapable of having proper communication, when in each other’s presence (BEST), in order to know what type of mood they are in before bring something heavy up. People can be very busy, tired, or having a bad hair day and when you harangue them about something they aren’t wanting to discuss because its not a good time for them, especially when they state it as he gave you valid reasons as to why he couldn’t see you right away but you refused to listen as you were more concerned about “you” and “your needs” than you were about his.

Just know RESPECT is very high on a man’s list of needs and when a man feels “disrespected” by his lady, its a sure fire way to end a relationship, especially one that hasn’t fully developed yet.

This is why these sort of things should always be discussed when you have BOTH the non-verbal (body language) and verbal (tone, inflection) so you can know what type of mood someone’s in when you bring a topic up. In this case, a phone call, at a MINIMUM would have provided you with those cues and pretty much told you it wasn’t a good time as he wasn’t in a good head or mind space to do so when his plate was full with other things, which is OK, as people need to have other people and things, outside of relationship, to achieve one’s overall happiness factor.

If a guy (or gal pal) is too busy, then you get busy too! You should be perfectly fine going a few days without hearing from or seeing your beau because you have friends, work and other things to do that collectively makes you happy too, not just spending time with him. I know it may appear to be counter-intuitive to do the OPPOSITE of what you said but based on the ‘laws of physics’ it will in many cases work in your favor. The OPPOSITE thing to in these situations is to pull back (not push) by making yourself less available, as two things may have happened: 1) It makes you less reliant on him to entertain you because you’re fully capable of entertaining yourself (freedom and autonomy are necessary elements in a secure relationship); and most importantly 2) Gives him some room/time to MISS YOU so he can fully *feel* what his life without you in it would be like.

Believe it or not but men fall in love in a woman’s ABSENCE. It’s when they aren’t around you is when they are able to really know if it’s a case of infatuation (surface feelings) or true love (deeper feelings). FYI, true love is is much CALMER than infatuation because you feel safe and secure in the relationship to the point its stable enough for the parties to get back to doing other things, such as devoting more time to work, hanging with friends, engaging in hobbies etc. without the other having a freak out, like you did here.

Lockdown has been very hard on people in general. He was getting his mojo back through work and re-connecting with friends and instead of allowing him the freedom (autonomy) to do this, you essentially told him he’s not allowed to work so much (which is HIGH on a man’s list of needs too btw) or hang out with his friends. That’s what HE HEARD and why it went south really quick! I’ve been in these situations enough times to know that when a man pulls back, you pull back too, whereas in most cases (not all) they can’t get you off their mind, as hard as they try and end up stepping back in and picking right back up as if no time had passed.

By advice to you is to back off. Give him some space, get busy with other things so you’re not constantly thinking about him. He will either push forward because he really *misses you* or he won’t. Just know, that no amount of pestering, bugging or nagging a man into doing something is going to get him there but giving a man some space will tell you how strong his feelings/love for you is or isn’t.

This sounds really over and he clearly isnt adult enough to just say that but choses ghosting hoping you will stop texting him. I have a feeling you were a lockdown placeholder gf and once he could go out with friends again etc it was over. He must have realized at some point he wasnt feeling it for you long term. Which happens a lot. You have to trust that its really over so you dont contact him again. No guy in love with a girl would act like he is acting. Delete his number and move on

This is over dear. Please move on, learn lessons posted by others earlier in this post! He’s a goner!

I wholeheartedly agree with Newbie. Also, I don’t see much wrong with your texts. Doesn’t seem like they caused anything other than reveal. I’ve had roughly similar texts from a gf and also from a girl I didn’t want to pursue beyond friendship. Big differences in my responses

Based on the details so far his “halfway” argument seems like a cowardly excuse. On top of that you’re making excuses for his ghosting. You don’t have to be a player to lose interest. There’s several things that stick out in your post, making me doubt how much genuine interest he even had in the first place