He Hasn't Opened My WA Message In Two Days But Is Active On FB. What Should I Do

Known him around 6 months, we met through a work event.
Just find it really odd as he usually always opens our WhatsApp conversations but to see that his active on Facebook & not open the last thing I sent in our WhatsApp chat which was two days ago is super odd to me. I see him the weekend before this weekend and even the next day we was chatting what we could do when we next see each other. I don’t know weather to leave it a few days then reach out like hey how’s you this meme reminded me of you something casual or something as something could of come up. Or if it goes on for say two weeks then I know I’m definitely being ghosted and just move on & delete him off everything?

Hmmm I don’t think he has a girlfriend Raven as I see nothing online that suggests that he has one or is talking to another girl, also he texts me every day and we was just together last weekend and talking the other about what we’d do when we meet up again, but for some reason he hasn’t opened my last WhatsApp which I sent two days ago which I just find really odd. It’s like his not going on WhatsApp for some reason but his going on his Facebook. What should I do???

Well if you know quite a lot about him and the behaviour is odd then why do you not feel comfortable in asking him what’s up?

It’s been 2 days that’s enough time you will not seem pushy if you ask now.

Also what was the last thing you said? Did it require a response? Was it something too deep?

It’s not that I don’t feel comfortable asking if his alright. I just don’t wanna come across too full on, annoying in someone’s pocket all the time you know and plus he hasn’t even opened my last message let alone read it. And we was just talking about some annoying friends we was joking around about them and he was on a work shift and I was asking how it’s going etc so it didn’t seem like too deep or anything but he hasn’t even opened my last reply on WhatsApp to even read it so very odd indeed. I know it’s the weekend so something could of come up.

We’ve only been out date wise 5 times so too early to chat about being official to be honest but as Iv explained Iv known him for a while through a work event it started off as friends and then we both expressed that we fancied each other and went from there. Everyone keeps saying he could of met someone else and just move on haha and that is fair enough he could have as we’re not official or anything but I see no indication online that this has happened yet plus we was just together over the weekend and then on Friday we was texting fine and now it’s Monday and still he hasn’t opened my WhatsApp message I feel like something is definitely is going on and it could be a number of things not just meeting another girl it could be health issue, work whatever. Maybe I should give it a few days and just be like hey how’s everything going?

he’s not been active on whatsapp at all? how do you know ? does he have last seen? if not then you can’t say for certain that he hasn’t been active. another thing is why do you check if he was online on social media , that’s not healthy at all!
if he was online on fb , then he also got your message on whatsapp, he chose to not open it, simple as that. I repeat he CHOSE. It happened to me before I don’t know how people do it but my message was showing as delivered not seen so they either delete the notification without reading it or I have no idea.
I would not message him again I think you should get what he is trying to tell you.

I don’t know if ios works the same as android for whatsapp but I am a regular user and I’m very familiar with it.

When your message is sent and delivered the two ticks is grey, when the person reads the message, as in they enter the chat conversation completely it turns blue. So two blue ticks means sent, delivered and read. If it stays grey even if the person has replied then the read receipt is off.

I’m sure you know all this and I’m sure you know that most people read the messages from the notification bar. It won’t change colour and it won’t refresh the last seen.
So your guy has read it for sure he’s just not bothered.

You can post a cute selfie on facebook, that will always get him to reach out, but that would tell you how he is interested for all the wrong reasons, you can send him one last message on facebook this time since he is over there, and if he ignores that one too then you’ll know without a doubt you need to drop him.

But honestly he’s not showing behaviours of a man that wants to take things further or he’s dating other girls and putting you on hold or something. Talking from experience.

Liz if you read we started off just chatting as friends till we decided to say to each other we both fancied each other and wanted to go out more. Plus we’ve both had busy lives so can’t see each other as much as we would of both liked.

So I decided to reach out to him today as Iv waited 4 days and heard nothing I sent him a funny meme saying remember this lol & asked how his been after those work shifts as something could of come up for him to be so silent or it’s possible he just not that interesting anymore.

How many days should I give a guy to reply before I delete him? I don’t feel comfortable having him on my social media if he is going to ghost me & no longer interested so should I say give it a week or something?

I see a lot of women on this forum use the “busy lives” excuse. No one is too busy to text someone they’re interested in, if they want to pursue a relationship with the person. When I met my bf he was working 50+ hours a week, getting up at 5 am every day, co-parenting his young child, and caring for a sick parent who needed surgery…and he still texted/called me daily and took me out 1-2 times a week. A man is never too busy to make time for a woman if he wants her.

I’m not trying to be rude, I just feel like you’re in denial a bit. The fact that you’re laser focused on this and obsessing over his texting habits shows that there is a massive imbalance of interest here. If he were into you in a serious way, you would know it– he would not leave you hanging and wondering.

I’m sorry to be harsh, I’m just trying to wake you up a bit. I think you should stop worrying about this guy and move on, talk to other guys, date others. This guy has made it clear he’s not interested in growing anything deep with you. If he were, he’d act on it. If nothing else, a man who wants a woman romantically does not want another man swooping in and snatching her up– so he makes sure to be attentive to her, respond to messages, take her out etc. He definitely doesn’t ignore her.

So he text me back and he apologised he said I’m really sorry Iv not text you I wasn’t avoiding you. Iv been so tired from doing night shifts and I’m booked on some again. My brains been a bit all over the place. I said yeah I guess night shifts can kinda mess with you a bit and we briefly texted about work. Now I don’t know weather to give this guy the benefit of the doubt here or what. I definitely feel I done my part waited 4 days and did the right thing by asking how his been as that’s what a polite person does. However I think maybe now I should back away here and if his that interested in me then he would take the time to text me and arrange to see me?

@Unicorn, that he did not try & schedule time with you when he finally text you back is very telling…