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Lexi
We broke up and I went no contact. Everyone always recommends it but what’s the difference between active no contact and regular no contact? He seemed upset when we were together but seems happier on sucks media. What’s the deal. Please help.
Jules
I’ve never heard of “active” NC vs “regular” NC.
It’s been six weeks, sounds like he’s moved on. Now would be a good time to process the breakup yourself.
I think the misconception about No Contact is that it’s some sort of key to getting your relationship back. It’s not. The purpose of NC is to completely disconnect from the relationship so you can begin the process of moving on.
All you can do now is figure out what went wrong. What’s always helped me is to figure out my piece in it. What did I do to contribute to the unhappiness I experienced in that relationship? What do I need to work on to be a better partner in a future relationship?
Sophia
After six weeks I’d say this is over and he’s not coming back.
kaye
What do you mean he seemed upset when you were together but happier now? And like the others I’ve never heard of “active’ no contact, you’re either in contact with someone or you’re not. Pretty simple. Since you give no background on your relationship like how long you were together or why you broke up it’s really hard to give advice here. But personally I think 6 weeks is nothing. My ex and I were broken up for 6 months and seeing other people and weren’t in contact. Then we got back together and a couple years later we’re married. :) I’ve known others who broke up for years and got back together or haven’t seen their childhood sweetheart in 20 years then got back together and got married. But if you only dated a short time and he’s been no contact for 6 weeks I would say that lowers your odds of him coming back.
Jenni
If you’re following him on “sucks” media (good term, even if it was a typo), then you are not engaging in no contact. You need to block him out so you can begin to heal and think of other things. Every time you ruminate, you are setting your recovery time back that much further. Stop looking at his photos, stop wondering why he doesn’t look upset on social media (who posts pictures of them alone and crying into their whiskey?), and focus on you and how to make you happier. Not to look happy, but to be happy. Not for anyone else. Not for him. Block him.
Amanda
Haha good point Jenny nobody post pictures of themselves grieving on social media. But you are not in any type of no-contact if you are looking at his social media. You will just keep hurting and won’t be able to move on. He is moving on and you should too no contact is to help you move on. There is no such thing as active no contact and not sure where you got that idea. Once you do no contact and no social media it will slowly start to get better and you will move on so you can be in a place to find a man who does work well for you.
Jay
Lexi, i don’t know what you meant—-no contact and regular contact?
Since you two broke up. Then keep going, you have to finish your journey without him. Don’t think too much.
However, you can analyse the good and bad about this deseased relationship. Why you two end up being this? What’s the reason? Your problems or his problems? Somethings I did wrong ? or not good enough?
When you start thinking over this, you will know yourself deeper and deeper and realise what you should get improve.
In your next relationship, you will learn how to have more stable romance.
Sorry for my limited English, hope you can understand what I mean.
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