He hasn't texted for an entire week?

I know most of the advice is not to initiate but maybe if he’s been doing it 100% of the time he wants you to text him first. Men are human too and they want to feel wanted. I don’t think it will hurt to text him as long as you’re not needy and asking why he hasn’t contacted you, just a friendly check in. If he doesn’t respond or he’s short with you then at least you’ll know and can stop wondering and move on

Men don’t get caught up with the exact time since the last time of last text. Texting means absolutely nothing to them. Unless that’s their only way of communication. I’ve had a guy who only communicated via text and it drove me insane.

If there’s one thing I learned it’s that men don’t read into things like do. Your mind got in the way and started analyzing the “meaning’ to why he didn’t text. Stop doing that! ;-) You’ll save yourself hours of stress, Starbucks and Ben & Jerry’s if you get out of your head immediately and act. You want him to be interested, then don’t be too busy. You can’t expect “interested” if you put other things first. Proximity! Be great and show him how much he’s missing being in your energy! If he’s too busy, then see it at face value. NO interpretations from no facts based on your story in your head. Our story never matches reality. If you want to be in his space, ask him to. feb. 29th is coming up, the day girls ask guys out. Go for it and please don’t over think it. If you get the urge, you got 5 seconds to ACT. After that, you’ll talk yourself out of it. 5 second rule…good luck!

Hmm I suspect I would feel the same way that he wasn’t interested any more because that’s ridiculous why would he disappear for a whole week without any notice or explanation as to why? How did you guys meet?

Kaye,

Well after that first message we talked for the rest of the day/night. He messaged me saying “good morning :)” on Sunday and we talked for a couple hours until the evening then he never responded to my last message. It’s now 2 days later and I haven’t heard from him. I’m just not going to send him anything for a while to see if he bothers to message me. I’m slowly becoming more frustrated with this whole thing and I wish guys would just be more straightforward and tell me when they’re not interested instead of leaving me hanging!

Jassyraider,

I’m kind of in your situation, sort of. I’m seeing somebody and I haven’t seen him in 3 weeks (he hurt his back badly).

Although, he has been consistent with texting, the last couple of times he has gone a bit MIA its been 3 days maximum of quietness on his end, then he messages. From reading a lot on this forum, I think it’s best to set your boundaries. Example, if a guy goes an entire week without checking in (early stages), reconsider whether he is suitable enough for you, or whether that’s what you want to put up with. Since I don’t know all the details of your relationship (how many dates, where you two stand) I would suggest not putting too much stress on the situation.

ALSO… Having him on any social media in the early stages will just drive you crazy by constantly looking at his online activity while wondering what he’s doing, why he hasn’t replied etc. It’s the biggest waste of time. Once he messages you, you’ll regret all the time you spent worrying.

Maybe he’s back but I still don’t think it’s “normal” (meaning a guy with a high level of interest).

I mean if we’re looking at the big picture, the texting is pretty inconsequential. The fact that you haven’t seen this guy in over a month now speaks volumes.

Are you looking for a texting buddy or someone to date? For an entire month this guy hasn’t been “dating” you. He’s been holding day long, sometimes sporadic text message conversations with you.

I can tell you as someone who has seen both sides. A guy who is really interested in you isn’t looking to just text. He wants to see you and makes it happen. You can ask the other ladies who date very busy men and who are busy themselves, time is still made. If there’s a will there’s a way.

I understand what you all are saying, but I haven’t really had time to see him either. Im in college/work and so is he. This is why I’ve made texting such a big deal, it’s my only current way of speaking to him without it interfering greatly with my schedule. You guys keep mentioning the 3 weeks, yet that doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t have time to hang out as frequently as I’d like and I really don’t want anything serious at the moment. I want things to be casual for now since we’re both in college. However, a casual relationship wont even exist if we don’t maintain contact — this is why the texting bugs me.

I’m in a similar boat. I’ve been seeing a guy for I guess about a month and a half now. He was really really into me but he recently got a new job that I think has him stressed and he hasn’t texted me in an entire week. I can tell he gets on Facebook, snapchat, and he’s liked a couple of my insta grams, but no texts for a week. It’s just strange how he would text me literally everyday and then nothing. And I can’t think of anything that would have triggered his silence. It’s very frustrating. I’ve decided not to text him because I texted him last. If it’s meant to be then he needs to be the one to text me this time. It’s childish but I’ve resorted to posting cute pictures of myself having fun all over social media so he sees them. My only advice would be to find ways to distract yourself from the situation and like I said blow up social media with cute pictures of yourself having fun. Being in the phase before you are officially dating is rough because if you address the issue of him not texting you then you come off as needy and he could easily just leave and never speak to you again. It’s important to remain in good standing with him, that way you have the upper hand. Just keep playing the game, babe.

As some others have said I wouldn’t base his interest in you on his texting habits. Someone here previously said guys don’t over think the timing of text messages like we do and that’s true I think. We read into every little message. Guys don’t tend to do that. He probably does see your messages and might think “oh I’ll reply to her a bit later when I can” and he might forget.

If you’re concerned that he’s not texting you you could just shoot him a relaxed text like haven’t heard from you in a while and see what happens. If he’s still waning in and out I’d just leave it and move on. Don’t contact him too much and don’t chase him. Let him initiate and come to you if he’s really that interested. If he doesn’t then you have the opportunity to meet someone new.

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Hey !

Similar situation and need some good advice ! I’m 22 and am seeing someone who is 28 . We have been “seeing each other ” for like 3 months now and use to see each other at least once every week . But he has never ever been good at texting and everytime I’ve asked he has just said “I hate texting – just call me ” but I don’t wanna call and be a pain especially just for a general chat !

Recently his work has taken him out of London and before he left I double checked if he wanted to still keep seeing each other and he was like “of course ! You ain’t just a fling ”

Now he is away he is useless at contact ! I did go to see him last week , but he hasn’t attempted to text yet ?? Should I get rid ?