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Alexis.
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Devil’s Advocate
Jen,
Your very last sentence says it all “he seems to like me too.” Guess what. If a guy likes you he will text, he will call, he will plan a date, he will want to see you and be around you. Sounds to me he is letting you down gently because he knows your friend. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t snap him, don’t like his photos or view his stories, don’t send him a message by smoke signal or carrier pigeon! Don’t. Contact. Him. At. ALL. You will look desperate, and like you’re way too into him after a couple dates. Which you are. Get a life. Stop stalking a guy you hardly know on social media and see if he chases you. If he doesn’t then you have your answer.
Jen
Devils Advocate,
Yes you are right. I am living my life and moving on. It just sucks because he expressed to my friend that he was interested and it seemed like he liked me. I just don’t understand why he would never text me or anything. I am not stalking him on social media, I just see that he would post instasnaps cause it shows up on top when you refresh the page. I won’t contact him at all though. Do you think he would ever text me again? It seemed like everything was fine. I’m just surprised he hasn’t texted me at all considering he showed so much interest in the beginning. And yes, you are also right by me liking a guy too much after a couple dates. I didn’t even like him to begin with but because he was so interested in me and now he shows he’s not makes me kind of like him which is stupid lol
It’s likely he will contact you again if you don’t chase after him. For all we know something could have happened at the bachelor party and he met someone. Or an ex girlfriend popped back up or there is someone he has been seeing casually. Just get on with your life and if and when he pops back up decide if he’s worth giving another chance. Make him work for it!!
Devils advocate,
Thank you for your wonderful advice! This helped me a lot to just move on from it and work on me. I definitely will just stop wondering if he ever will text me. I would assume he would of texted me by now and if he doesn’t at all this week, it just shows me he’s really not worth it. I mean tomorrow will be 1 week of us not talking so it shows me that it already isn’t worth it. I know my worth and I know I’m a great girl, I’m pretty and have great things going for myself, so if he wants to just date other women and not care to text me then so be it. I’m assuming he will, like you said. I just wish it was sooner. I thought he was different but guess not. I’m just such an over thinker and need to stop.
Tara
Ladies, if there is one thing, and one thing only, to always live by:
Don’t invest your feelings in a guy that is not making sure YOU feel comfortable investing those feelings. Walk away, don’t throw good money after bad.
We all understand how we like a guy and want it to work so badly. But, just remember to always walk away before you get too invested, if he is not giving you confidence in the “relationship”.
To the left, ladies.
Tara,
Yes you are absolutely correct. I’m 29 and I live in a pressurized community where every one is getting married and having kids and I want so bad for my parents to have grandchildren and feel so bad that they don’t and I’m just getting older and older and still dating and not yet in a solid relationship like everyone else. I just know there is the man of my dreams somewhere out there but it’s hard with all this pressure and it’s hard with all these douche bags out here not wanting to settle or not caring or just have so many options to choose from that they don’t care at all. I get hopeless sometimes but I just have to stick to my faith and hope for the best.Lane
Go back to a time where a guy really liked you but you didn’t like him that way…same concept!
I know its hard when feelings aren’t mutual, you see the ‘potential’ and want him to see it too but this is not how life works and best to learn it now so you don’t waste too much time and energy pinging after a guy who is not pining after you the same way.
A man who’s smitten with you will make darn sure you know it! That’s the man you need to give your time and attention to, not a guy who’s not feeling it the way he needs to in order to proceed. We’ve all been there, really liked or crushed on a guy who wasn’t feeling the same way but the funny thing about life is that the right man will come along, blow your socks off, do everything to make sure he’s in it to win it and the two of you will be blissfully happy!!! That’s the man you need to wait for! :o)
Lane,
Your words help me so much!! Thank you for knocking scenes into me!!
Rali
I been exclusive with this guy for 2 months. He used to call text everyday. See each other twice a week. Make the effort. We even went away for the night in another city. After we came back first day he texted called then next day he texted then I texted day after. I asked to meet him as I haven’t seen him in a week he said he will let me know. Thne I heard nothing from him it’s been a whole week. Does he need space ? Is he thinking about our relationship. I’ve been pressuring him to commit which I now know I shouldn’t have. Is he thinking to end things ?
Mod update:
Hi Rali, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I wish you the best moving forward.
The original post for this topic was made several years ago. Our community tends not to respond to such old threads. One of the reasons is because it can become confusing about who is responding to whom, and which story is the one being discussed. (I realize this topic was revisited several times over the years, but we’re trying to curtail that now. :) )
I’ll go ahead and close this thread, but you are most welcome to start a fresh new thread with your story. I think that a new thread has a much better chance of having more interaction from our community.
Best wishes to you!
Also – to anyone else who happens to come across this thread and feels like it’s a close match for their own situation, know that you are not alone! You are all most welcome to start your own fresh thread on a similar topic.
Alexis
A guy i’ve been dating for more than a month suddenly disappears. it turns out he ghosted me. never heard from him for more than a week. texted him twice and no response at all.
A week before that he’s response is getting less and less.
I suggest for you not to over analyze things and just go with the flow.
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