He hasn't texted for an entire week?

So, I hope this topic is still alive.

My situation is such that we met online, and as we were quite far from each other (4 hour drive), the only way of getting together was texting and occasional Skyping. In the period of 3 months, he was already saying how nice it would be if we moved in, and how he can’t wait to see me. We really clicked, and are alike in so many habits.
However, after he moved closer (1 hour drive), he got a job, personal project, and his dad and grandpa ended in a hospital. That’s when from talking daily, our talks became scarce (a text every third day), and our plans to meet got delayed. I said to him then, that it takes 20sec for a message and it would mean to me a lot if he could do that. He then said that he’s worried if it’s going to be like this with me all the time (meaning that he doesn’t understand my need for at least hearing from me, indirectly telling me he dislikes me being like that, clingy).
After that conversation, he continued 3 day trend. I went along and said we can hang out when both our busy times are over. He accepted that happily. Last message I got from him was him telling me that he had an awful day where one of his family ended in a hospital and that his ex had a car accident where she totalled the car, but I understood nothing happened to her. I was supportive and said that it’s good they are both alright… But even then, I felt like he better knows how his ex is (which has a new guy), than how I am. Since that exchange, it’s been 2 weeks. He didn’t respond on my supportive text, nor did he send anything else, not a single question how I am. I understand he is very busy, working even weekends, but this change from talking daily, then a month with little to no contact is hard. And I am wondering how should I deal with this situation? I obviously care about him, so maybe I should wait it out just this once, cause I know he has a hard time.
Or should I end it with him cause this is hurting me and I would not wish to be in such position again, where things are unclear?

I’ms sorry but this NEED to keep in constant communication via a phone is ridiculous!!! Are you dating your phone or a man???

Men do not bond through WORDS, they bond through ACTIVITIES that creates positive memories to the point they want to keep creating them with you! For instance a group of guys will go to a ballgame together and barely talk other than cheering on their team or booing the other. They are BONDING, its the ACTIVITY they spend time doing together that makes them want to keep doing it.

Say these men brought their SO’s. The woman would essentially TALK among themselves and barely pay attention to what the players are doing yet they are BONDING. Problem here is you are EXPECTING men to bond the way woman do and that’s a very flawed way to date or get to know a man. Trust me on this, a man’s TIME [emphasis added] is the most precious gift he gives to a woman he really likes or loves. For example, my ex mother-in-law told me her son (my ex) about the age of 9 bought her a baseball glove for her birthday so they could spend TIME together. This was his (a man’s) way of SHOWING her how much he LOVED his mom by wanting to spending TIME together in one of his favorite ACTIVITIES.

If he’s not spending TIME with you then all this texting is a waste of HIS TIME which is why he stops engaging in something that brings no value to his life. Your bonding through words but he is not.

Bottom line, women need to stop using their phone as a barometer of a man’s interest. Its the TIME he spends with you that ultimately counts and if he’s not wanting or willing to spend TIME with you then he’s not interested nor bonding in the way a man needs to in order for him to continue. Best to stop wasting your time pining for a guy who’s not spending time with you.

Jen,

Your very last sentence says it all “he seems to like me too.” Guess what. If a guy likes you he will text, he will call, he will plan a date, he will want to see you and be around you. Sounds to me he is letting you down gently because he knows your friend. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t snap him, don’t like his photos or view his stories, don’t send him a message by smoke signal or carrier pigeon! Don’t. Contact. Him. At. ALL. You will look desperate, and like you’re way too into him after a couple dates. Which you are. Get a life. Stop stalking a guy you hardly know on social media and see if he chases you. If he doesn’t then you have your answer.

It’s likely he will contact you again if you don’t chase after him. For all we know something could have happened at the bachelor party and he met someone. Or an ex girlfriend popped back up or there is someone he has been seeing casually. Just get on with your life and if and when he pops back up decide if he’s worth giving another chance. Make him work for it!!

Ladies, if there is one thing, and one thing only, to always live by:

Don’t invest your feelings in a guy that is not making sure YOU feel comfortable investing those feelings. Walk away, don’t throw good money after bad.

We all understand how we like a guy and want it to work so badly. But, just remember to always walk away before you get too invested, if he is not giving you confidence in the “relationship”.

To the left, ladies.

Go back to a time where a guy really liked you but you didn’t like him that way…same concept!

I know its hard when feelings aren’t mutual, you see the ‘potential’ and want him to see it too but this is not how life works and best to learn it now so you don’t waste too much time and energy pinging after a guy who is not pining after you the same way.

A man who’s smitten with you will make darn sure you know it! That’s the man you need to give your time and attention to, not a guy who’s not feeling it the way he needs to in order to proceed. We’ve all been there, really liked or crushed on a guy who wasn’t feeling the same way but the funny thing about life is that the right man will come along, blow your socks off, do everything to make sure he’s in it to win it and the two of you will be blissfully happy!!! That’s the man you need to wait for! :o)

I been exclusive with this guy for 2 months. He used to call text everyday. See each other twice a week. Make the effort. We even went away for the night in another city. After we came back first day he texted called then next day he texted then I texted day after. I asked to meet him as I haven’t seen him in a week he said he will let me know. Thne I heard nothing from him it’s been a whole week. Does he need space ? Is he thinking about our relationship. I’ve been pressuring him to commit which I now know I shouldn’t have. Is he thinking to end things ?