He Hasn't texted me for a week, what should I do?

Wait, so you had sex with him on the first date? And the first time you met him? I think it could have an impact.

Agree with third post above! (Also a Hannah?)

Ashley yes I had sex on the first date, I thought that might have had a huge impact actually, but I felt so into him! Especially in the past three months when we were texting every day it felt as if I’ve known him for forever…. He asked me if I wanted to wait to be honest, because he said he wants to do things “properly” with me and get to know me more before having sex; I agreed but eventually we both gave in…

Guess he didn’t like the sex…. lol… nah! He has a gf or wife.

How did you meet him, on Facebook? I don’t think he has a wife or any serious GF, but I do think he probably meet someone he likes better recently. He wants to keep you until he decides what to do with you and his new girl.

It could be all kinds of things. Thrill of the chase is gone now that he got you so “easily.” He wanted to do things properly and he wasn’t lying about that, but you guys… kind of didn’t. You had sex really quickly, so he is feeling off about it. He COULD have been doing it just for the sex but that’s a lot of time to invest texting just for the sex, so I would probably guess it was one of the first two, which is really more how men work. If you want him to potentially come around again I’d do nothing, just sit back and see if he comes around. Maybe pull back and not sleep with him next time you see him (if you do again). Before you say it sounds like playing games, it’s just making him understand he has to work a little harder, especially now you know once he feels he “has it” he can start acting in a way you don’t appreciate or want to accept.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how much you like him. Relationships, dating, etc has to be consensual on both sides not just one, and the more you chase him, the less he’s going to like you. Just sit back and see if time and space makes him reconsider. He obviously liked you and was attracted to you so there’s a chance. But starting another conversation or trying too hard won’t be the answer.

Oh yes I didn’t realise we were 2 Hannahs!

Look it doesn’t matter what his intentions were or are. He’s not worth your time or effort even thinking about it. Let him go, think “I deserve better than this” and forget him..l

It’s about what YOU want too. Do you really want a man that’s so busy he doesn’t contact you for a week? I’m sure you’d be much happier with someone who has time and is attentive. Someone who makes you happy, not anxious.

You’re right Hannah, I have to think about that and move on… It’s going to be very hard though, when we texted before and when we were together it felt so good and that it could really work between us.
After reading everyone’s advice now I just think that his “being busy” could’ve been a way to end things nicely and without being too awkward… don’t know, I’ll just have to get him out of my head one way or another!
Thank you!

Unfortunately, when you texted him asking when you could get together again and he responded that he’s really busy, that was him basically blowing you off.

Someone that was excited about you would be texting you making plans to see you again. Usually even before the first date is over.

The problem is when you spend so much time texting it creates a false sense of intimacy. You don’t really know this guy at all, but you felt like you did, and the prolonged contact had you further along than you should have been.

This has all the signs of a typical first date that didn’t turn into a second. Minus the texting (which really doesn’t mean all that much, unfortunately) and the sex, what do you have?

He could have a girlfriend or a wife. Not that uncommon for a guy who is long distance to do this. He could also be dating several woman (easy to text multiple women) and decided you weren’t going to make the cut to round two. (Ugh, I know that stings…we’ve all gone through it). He could simply have decided when he met you that the two of you didn’t have enough in common to keep dating but figured he’d get what he could out of the meeting, hence the sex.
I personally have a rule that if I don’t hear from a guy in an entire week I consider him gone. Your guy is gone. I would put my energies toward finding someone new, hopefully closer to home.

Not sure but maybe the fact that you had sex with him so fast made him think It’s too easy to get you. I’m not sure but since I’m not a guy but one did stop talking to me after we had sex on the 3rd date and some of my guy frinds told me they often loos respect and/or interest in a girl after the sleep together…

Oh my god guys he just texted me asking if I’m gonna have some time off soon to see me again because he had a great time…. I have no idea what to do… shall I say yes? But I’m also thinking… I wouldn’t want it to be a booty call! I could go and find out, but probably it would also be good to say I’m busy to keep him hanging and chase me to see whether he’s really interested.
What do you guys think?

You want him to want you:

Day date

No sex

Have a great time and allow him to have a great time as well

So that he associate a great memory with you.