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Kara.
Hannah
Anothr Hammah here!
What all this time later?! He’s setting you up to be an unpaid hooker.
Definitely tell him you’re busy.
Hannah
Urgh. Hannah!
Amz
When a guy disappears on you, only to pop-up again later, I’d be extremely wary of that.
He might be a very non-committal guy who only wants occasional dates and casual hook-ups. Be very careful with him and observe the patterns. You deserve a full-time guy, not somebody who only sees you on his terms/when it suits him.
And be very wary of a guy who says he’s “too busy” to see you. People always make the time for things that matter to them. Always.
Ama
Forget all this nonsense about men loosing respect after they had sex with you on the first date. 1) if that would be the case, time to loose respect for those “loose men”, too
2) in this case, he groomed you for three month, its not like you met him at a bar and went home with him right away (I did and it turned into a long relationship – I just had no expectations that night, it was not planned ;-)
3) I agree with what someone above wrote: this texting over a long period creates tension and false intimacy. Maybe you coul not live up to his “fantasy” he created – who could?!
Learn that this texting and online “talk” is not a way to “meet” and get to know someone.
And yes, BUSY is a code word for “I am not interested”. I have used it myself.
So, nothing you did wrong! He is just an a** and doesn’t deserve your attention! You are now BUSY too ;-)
Emma
If you are unable to state what you want in a polite dignified way you are unlikely to get it. I would advise against playing games. It took him weeks to text you and he is not asking you out on a date. The message is very clear and it is not a very pleasant one.
You can reply a few hours later and tell him it was good to hear from him but you are interested in dating and relationships, not in hookups. You haven’t heard from him in two weeks and he is not asking you on a date. Say you had a good time with him but this is not what you are interested in.
Hannah
Thanks girls for your advice! I’ve been waiting for hours before texting back and I decided to go for a mix of what you guys said: I’ll accept a day date, no sex and see how it goes; then I’ll definitely be able to tell whether he really wants me or if it’s just sex and at least I’ll get closure and move on if that’s the case!
Thank you so much for all your advice!
Kara
Well? What happened?
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