He isn't putting any effort in?

So my ex and I have been split up for 5 months and it was going round in circles on and off, sort of together sort of not for all that time until I finally broke the contact off so that I could move on because I was fed up of his lack of commitment and felt I was being stringed along. The break up was because he wasn’t happy because he felt he was neglecting other aspects of his life to see me. (Like his friends)

Anyway some family related things happened with him and he really needed someone to speak to so he begged me to stop ignoring him, and I spoke to him and tried to help him. This was around 2 weeks ago. Since then we’ve been talking as more than just friends, and he keeps saying he wants to see me and misses me and we’ve agreed to be exclusive again, the only thing is he won’t put the effort in. We live a little while away from one another and I don’t drive, and he always has an excuse for not being able to come over. Obviously sometimes the excuse is genuine but other times I think he’s avoiding it and I don’t get why?

I’m so confused because I do love him and I do want to be with him, but I feel like it’s not the same anymore. I’m more than willing to put effort in, but I feel like he isn’t willing to do the same. He doesn’t compliment me in the way he used to or send me messages just to say he’s thinking about me and stuff like he used to, which is what made it so special in the first place. However when I have occasionally seen him in person, and we’ve spoken on the phone, it’s like I have my old boyfriend back like nothing’s changed. It’s just texting and actually seeing each other that’s the issue.

How can I get him to act the way he used to? I feel like he feels like he’s kind of ‘won me over’ and so he doesn’t have to put effort in. I’ve tried talking to him about it but he just says that the family stuff is why he’s not himself, and I’m trying to be supportive and understanding but it’s been going on for so long! I feel like he’s never going to adore me in the way he used to and I wouldn’t want to be with him if he didn’t, because that’s what made it so great, and I wouldn’t settle for less than what I know he’s capable of giving. Is there any way for him to act as amazingly as he did when we were together? To get him to realise that I’m not going to settle for less? It’s so frustrating! I’ve improved myself so much since the split got into great shape and I don’t mean to sound big headed but there’s a lot of guys trying to talk to me and stuff, and he doesn’t realise! I just need him to properly commit and show me that he’s willing to put the effort in that he once did and treat me as great as I treat him! We’ve worked through our issues but I feel like his lack of commitment and effort has just put us in a standstill. Thanks in advance.