He keeps asking if I'm seeing someone else

Why not ask him why it matters to him?

Are you hoping we are going to say that he must be changing his mind about wanting something serious?

Cause really if you want a relationship and like this guy you put your heart at risk by continue seeing him when he was clear he doesn’t want something serious. I know you said you are seeing other guys, but you also said you like this guy best, so clearly you are developing feelings for a guy who gave you his relationship disclaimer and probably won’t change his mind no matter how much time you spend with him. It’s risky to do that and sets you up for a broken heart.

And some guys even though they just want casual and won’t commit, they don’t like the idea of the girl not being exclusive with them. It’s not uncommon for that to happen, but it doesn’t change a guy’s mind from wanting casual to something serious, not often.

I say ask him why he is asking you and give him an honest answer, if he’s asking, then there is no need not to tell him the truth.

Completely agree with Ivy. And please identify what you are looking for and if it is indeed a relationship, stop dating this man. Trust me, it will be a good move. Hold out for men that are looking for the same things that you are.

And just keep it more simple, guy language ;), say “I am dating because I haven’t found what I’m looking for yet!”

He wants to know how you are…

Wenglo,

How are you?

Men are territorial and have double standards. Ie its ok for him to date others but not you. And its not ok for another guy to be on his turf. I would tell him its none of his business and if he wants to be exclusive then its a two way thing. x

Shannon then why keep asking if that’s our take on it. That doesn’t really make since. Men will tell you they don’the want to be exclusive but they don’t want you seeing anyone else either.

There could be some feelings there what who knows. If I was not interested in someone, and they were screwing another person I don’t give a fudge about it.

I think this is one of those inquiries that we ladies take to mean one way, when the guy means something else.

You’re taking it as the guy being jealous and possessive.

I think he’s letting you know that if you’re not seeing other people, you should be, because he is. It’s his way of reminding you that your relationship is not exclusive.

That’s unfortunately been my experience when these sorts of questions get asked and I always want it to mean the guy wants me for himself.

In my opinion I think that when you start asking yourself these kinds of questions (does he like me?) you are putting too much of yourself and that wall that you build once is not there anymore.
Don’t overthink it and just go with it. Keep doing your thing and having fun. If he wants a relationship with you at some point, he will say it straightforward and let you know.
Meanwhile, you could take a break from him, seen a certain someone too often can lead to “Im getting used to him”
Sometimes meeting new people is tired but believe don’t settle for less.
keep that wall up high and strong other wise it will all end up in a confusing situation.

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This co worker guy keep teasing me, look, bump into me,always ask me about if I have a bf, asks about me when not at work, also when I come back to work,he comment where did I go or do and with my bf which told him don’t have one, he told me one of his friends wanna go out with me and just smile, I ask him does his friend work with us, reply no. I was confused at that point but just play along. Oh ok I reply. One time was chatting with another co worker guy and he came and whispered to him, she gives ppl nick name and then ask if he like me. He always stand close and come to chat with me in short phrases. Is he trying to be my friend? Plz answer.