He lost interest and doesn't answer my questions

It sounds like low interest but they may be to do with the strange times we are in with the virus. I don’t think its sensible or reasonable of you to open discussions about a future right now. You can’t see each other and so how could he possibly decide what he wants?

When he was on holiday it was fine to have minimal contact. Now he is keeping in touch but very much at a distance. I don’t think its a good idea to keep being so pushy. Be receptive to his messages and sit back. When the restrictions are lifted if he is not making dates with you or staying so distant in his contact then I would end it. But given the current situation I would just leave things as they are and give him a pass for now

I agree with Raven. Lockdown or no, a guy who is interested should be calling and texting you. A guy who is interested would have called you on your birthday as you requested.

You said he went on vacation for a month and “changed”. How long was he back from vacation before the lockdown started? Did he make any attempt to see you when he got back?

I have the impression this guy lost interest before the lockdown even started. If he was not eager to see you after being away for a month on vacation, that says a lot. And I know people communicate less on vacation, but if you had been dating a couple of months and talking every day, I would think he would have reached out at least somewhat on vacation if he were interested, even if it was just to send vacation pics. We’re not talking a 1 week vacation here, a month is a long time. A man who had a strong interest in a woman would not simply stop communicating with her for that entire month. So honestly it leads me to believe his interest was waning before the lockdown even started.

The thing that sticks out to me is “He says I’m getting on his nerves with my attitude.” If a man told me I was getting on his nerves just because I asked if we were going to still see each other after lock now and his only response was “I think so” he wouldn’t hear from me again!!!

If a man I was dating wasn’t calling me, texting me, telling me ABSOLUTELY we were still on and he was missing me like crazy during lockdown I would KNOW it was done. I’m not sure why you are confused. You haven’t seen him in 2 months and he never calls and barely texts you. This is a man who texted you every single day in the beginning. Now he won’t even call you when you ask him too. There’s the clear answer you wanted!!!! So be DONE!!

Communication is much harder now you can’t be in person so you can’t really get the closure you want. Consider things over and start moving on. Sorry but this quarantine has fast forwarded many things and how you really feel about a person is one of them. He maybe wasn’t all in but kind of interested, but when there is much less to distract you- everything is hyper focused upon and he is not that into you to continue is the conclusion he has reached

Move on. You got nothing to gain from this at all. He is not interested anymore no matter what he says. forget about him. He s not worth even thinking about anymore

This guy is not interested and his actions are telling you that loud and clear.
Why do you continue to chase him?

If a man told me I was getting on his nerves and mentioned I gained weight I’d be gone.

It sounds like you suffer from a low self esteem.

The lock down has altered things for so many of us but, he can still connect with you. Move on please and keep some shred of dignity.

Hello everyone.i wanted to thank you for your advices.
He wrote me a message, that he likes m very much, he didn’t want to hurt me. At the end the dinstance was the only reason why it doesn’t work out.
At the beginning he told me that the distance isn’t a big problem for him. Since we both planned to return to our home town
I deleted his number and unfriended him from my Instagram.
He called my behavior “childish “.
The next morning I saw his friend request, which he sent me at 4 am.
And then he sent me a sad smiley “😔”.
I didn’t react.
Today he send me a selfie of him with a sad dog face (filter)

That’s it.
I took all of your advices.

Isn’t it amazing that the moment you cut a guy off they act all ‘interested’ again haha. See how that works when you do the opposite of you’ve been doing?

You dodged a bullet though as he had no inclination of progressing this forward in any meaningful way or he would have never bailed out. Trust me, when a man loves a woman he will MOVE MOUNTAINS to be with her and not let distance stand in the way. I know, I’ve had two do it…my ex husband (of over 20 years) and current BF (over three years).

If a man’s not ALL IN, then you put your boots on and walk out :o)

Guys can come one strong at first without themselves knowing if they are serious or not. So asking now doesnt get you anywhere. Assume he was interested but changed his mind. But see the good things: getting rejected didnt kill you, didnt do permanent damage. Next time you have to wait for 2 months to see if a guy is really interested. Thats more telling than the first month. I hope you moved on

I kind of see your disappointment- but I think you should have never engaged with him except to just laugh at him when he texted the drunk texts. He is not a good guy- no good guy tells a woman she’s gained weight. I’m guessing he’s actually a jerk who put on a really good show for you for 2 months. Understand- you are the lucky one- this kind of guy would pick at you and try to ruin your self-esteem. Don’t ever talk to someone who has the nerve to call you annoying and tells you that you’ve gained flags- that’s a deal breaker and it would be over.

Thank you guys for the answers, it means a lot for me.
Yes I moved on, I accepted the fact that I’ll never see him again.
But his last message really hurt me. I’m not the woman for a hook up. I have feelings and a good heart. Why do I deserve this behavior? If a man isn’t interested anymore, why contact the woman? And show her your disrespect?

I’ll be honest, after that message, I seriously asked myself if I’m worthy to be loved?
I guess I have to analyze, what went wrong and why this man lost the respect. It’s okay when someone loses interest and doesn’t contact me anymore. But it’s definitely not okay contact me lacking respect. I hope I will forget about him completely. He was am ouch.