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    Flowers

    I have a guy who has been on 4 dates. We started seeing each other in May of this year. We had good date last week. But before the 5 date, he asked to change the time because of urgent work

    I told him that you can skip that day and put work first, but I didn’t hear anything from him after that I got very worried.
    (I was ghosted by my ex and it’s still trauma. He knows about that).
    I wanted to be honest with myself and told him I was worried about not hearing from you, and he never apologized but offered to reschedule. But I had to work late that day and it was difficult to make time, so we rescheduled for tomorrow.
    I haven’t heard from him for the next three days.

    First of all, as far as his personality goes, he doesn’t seem to ghost me and he is a very busy person. But I’m aware that his priority in life is not to date me at the moment. I will be gone for a few years next month on an overseas because of work, so I literally have no time. I don’t want to force him to see me, but I am a little confused. (He knows about my work and we have talked once about a long-distance relationship.)

    I should probably text him about this tomorrow, but I’m not feeling like messaging him because I’m aware that maybe he’s not into me.
    Should I say bye to him? If so, I would like to do some positive texting and be done with him. But I don’t know how to write (very confused).

    Am I overreacting? If you have any advice please let me know.
    Thank you

    #942282 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    You’ve had 4 dates with this guy since May, and it’s now August. So you hardly know the guy and he’s clearly not that invested in dating you — 4 dates in 3 months is extremely low interest.

    And you’re going away for several years starting next month! Why would you even want a long distance relationship with someone you barely know? It would prevent you from dating guys where you are and possibly having a great in-person relationship. And how would you even manage a long distance relationship with a guy who forgets dates and doesn’t contact you for days?

    I think you’re overthinking this. I wouldn’t contact the guy at all if I were you. If he’s completely forgotten about your date, there’s no need to remind him or say goodbye. If he does reach out at some point, you can say it was nice getting to know him but you’re going to be focusing on your move abroad, so don’t have time to date. At least that’s what I would do– this situation sounds like a complete waste of time.

    #942283 Reply
    Maddie

    What are you looking to get out of this?

    It sounds like you both knew you were moving far away soon so it was always a pretty casual dating schedule. He’s not really worth the head space because with the long distance, things can’t easily develop, which is probably why they haven’t. If you want to have a goodbye date, though you admittedly don’t even have the time, then let him know whenever you feel like doing it. Or don’t and text him goodbye instead. But it’s nothing to stress over when you have more important things to do yourself! Good luck with the move.

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