He maybe didn't feel a spark, but accepts a third date, HELP? should i set it?

I come back after the date, I could feel it, but he finally told me face to face. He is sure he isn’t going to get feelings for me. I appreciate his honesty. And indeed he had already recruited two friends for his summer trip..

What I’m more sad about is to see he didn’t ask me deep questions again, so I didn’t get this chance to get off my shell and reply to his question of last time about my mom. That’s a step I regret didn’t happen, that would have been a change to just talk to someone live about it.
Inevitably I do feel a bit sad. He is a good, interesting and honest person. And I feel like I am starting again from zero.

He said he liked me as a person and didn’t want me to feel less of me because of that. And he liked the walks… I kinda said I’m also fine with having friends, but at that stage I’m not sure this is leading anywhere either, and feel a bit sad. Because we have quite in common… and he is a really good person.

If he is sure he doesn’t want me romantically, would he even dare texting me out of his own to chitchat as friends now?

Oww things are just so hard :(

I wish myself something else than that for my 30s.. Somehow I feel I’m too complicated to just simply be attractive to someone (whom I like as well)… I find it hard to rebound, after having always that kind of experience, or actually someone who just lies. because that’s more common.
In the end I can conclude no one likes me. Even if this guy told me I shouldn’t think less of me, I find it hard….

Can you explain what is confidence? and most of all how someone would seem confident? it’s not the first time I hear that, so I mentioned it to my therapist as well, but we have too much to discuss, it’s not the first time I hear this about me, but I don’t really grasp the idea of it.. how a confident person would act.and what makes it different to me.. (you have to consider I have no standard of how things should be)

Indeed. I’m not certain at all.. or at least not certain it will ever be more than one sided.

Just relax and try not to overshare and don’t push anything to happen. It happens if it is supposed to happen. All you have to do is show up, be kind and have fun on dates (making the guy do the work of proving he is deserving of your heart). A red flag is his depression he told you about, but I think you are trying to have a guy fill a void of self love.

I thought about this all and I was actually thinking to give him a green light by text, to be friends, if he wants, because we do share some things, and i do value his honesty so much. I believe he’s a great person.

So I wouldn’t mind meeting once in a while on a friendly basis, like we did before, cause nothing happened.

I think he mentioned that, but I want to give him the green light in case it’s mutual. I would benefit presently from a good real friend than fake superficial dating. Also within my therapy. So i’d like to give it a chance/an opening.

You are just looking for an excuse to contact him. Dont do it.

How can you possible know he will make a great honest friend? Im not saying he cant be, but it looks like an excuse to stay in touch. And what if he dates a new girl next month? Wont that hurt your feelings? Im just saying someting its best to keep it clean. But its your call of course. At least let him make some effort in stead of you. I can almost guarantee you he wont get in touch again

Hi:

I think you are over invested in the “ thoughts” with what you want to do with this guy as a friend or as a listener.

Only one advice. I think you need to go and date more people as you have no much romance experiences atm and that’s why you have not yet figured it out who you are in the love life.
And this is also why you are lack of self confidence and keep doubting and questioning everything one guy did.

I used to be like that and I am 31. I only started dating a year ago and I always thought I know who I am well enough but then I discovered more and more about myself through datings with few guys and grow and learn in between.

Just keep meeting more guy and relax. People get attracted by positive emerge, lovely vibe and smiley laugh and face.
And once two party get drawn to each other and invest more and more time together. You will then know and talk about some deeper stuffs in your life.

People reveal themselves slowly and you discover the person from different angles. Layer by layer. It’s like reading a book. Hardly anyone will keep reading If they already know the ending.