He pull away after sex…

Hi-Sorry,this guy seems to have just wanted sex or just sex the way he wanted it. I would stop contacting or texting him. He is putting no effort in and you sound like you are pitching to be his booty call. I doubt that is really what you hope for.

I think he will be in contact.

Tell me, do you want a relationship with this man or just sex?

Trust me, he will be in contact when HE’s horny. He sees you as a sex buddy and if that’s all your looking for then JUMP when he contacts you again but expect to be benched until he’s horny again and as no other offers.

Wow why is he contacting me when he will be horny with no better offer? Why will i be last choice?

Sorry im talking like a call girl? We have dates for like 3 months we finally have sex after a period of sexting and he always said he loves when im talking like that and do it so. So why is it inappropriate to continue after we had sex ?

I highly suggest you get smart on dating, your method doesn’t work, at least long term.

Read the “love advice” articles here on new mode; buy Eric’s (founder of a new mode) e-book “He’s not that Complicated” and also buy (or borrow) the book “How to Think like a Man but Act like a Lady” and “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus (differences in how the sexes think) as your going about it entirely the wrong way! As a side note: other’s have mentioned the book “Why men love bitches”, I personally haven’t read it or its contents but its talked about on here so adding another book to your dating arsenal can’t hurt.

Its been a week now

3 months of dating is a pretty solid amount of time for a guy who is just after sex to wait. If it was 3 months of regular dates and communication, I would not say she is leading with sex.

I’d lay off the sexy talk and back off.

In the future, if a guy you have been dating asks you to text him that you got home safe, do it. He may have interpreted that as some game playing on your part. Guys are insecure after sex as well.

It’s actually hard to tell what is up. If you look back, and it was honestly 3 months of GOOD dates, not just making out on the couch, but going out, dinners, drinks, movies, texting that is not sexting regularly, I’d sit down and have a chat with him. This kind of treatment is sadly uncommon, but for a guy to invest 3 months and be that cold is odd.

That said, I doubt this is going anywhere.

I think sexting before you have sex is a mistake. It sets the tone of the relationship to be sexual. I think men need to have respect to take a woman seriously and that’s quite difficult if you’ve been sexting because you’re making the wrong part of his anatomy expand. You want it to be his brain and heart, not between his legs! You want him to be menatally stimulated when he talks to you, not physically. You got freaky by sexting so he was probably expecting a lot more than you were willing to give him. I imagine you talked about anal so he thought you would want to do it?

Also, he’s going to wonder how many men you do this with and how often.

Also, always after sex, the relationship has changed. Trying to sex him back into your bedroom isn’t the way. You didn’t text him back when you agreed to and then you lead with sex again. I would say that would be a turn off for most men. He’s going to think you just want sex. Why not just say you had an amazing night with him and you’d love to see him again?

You came off as quite sexually aggressive and not serious. Maybe he did just want sex but he did follow up the next day, so who knows?

I can actually get the call girl analogy because you marketed yourself as someone you’re not. You need to gain the confidence not to lead with sex and to be yourself. Show some heart and vulnerability. Tell a man what you really want, which isn’t sex, anal and oral is it? It’s a man you can love.

But i dont deserve the no contact treatment like i did something wrong! Tomorow it will be a full week without a single message from him .(i didnt write to him neither)

HI Lina- I don’t think you sound like a call girl, (all due respect to Lane, who I think overall gives great advice!). You waited quite a long time to sleep with him!!! 3 months!!

I will admit I totally sexted with my BF before we met! (in part because it was long distance). We are in totally love and very serious about each other. THAT BEING SAID I do think it is *generally* a bad idea. My boyfriend is a total sweetheart, totally NON player type and I got very lucky indeed as I was, yes, kinda leading with sex, or maybe not leading with it, but certainly throwing it into the mix. It just so happened because we have a ton in common and are very intellectually compatible etc, that it worked out. So do as I say, and not as I do, haha! If I were dating again I probably wouldn’t do this.

No of course you don’t deserve it! No one does.

You wanted one thing and he wanted something different.

It doesn’t sound like you talked about what you wanted though, apart from sex? If that’s what you talk about, that’s what he’s going to think you want.