He read my message and didn't reply

I’m so gladness I have a patient BF because if he reacted the way you are we wouldn’t not be together! I own a business and he knows how busy I am and has nevertheless once held it agains t me when I haven’t responded in a timely manner which is often lol.

I think you really need to chill out me unwind. This is super minor whereas if you wanted to see him why not COMMUNICATE that to him???? I don’t think you would have been fun or pleasant be around and maybe he’s feeling that’s negative energy.

He probably just forgot. You’re 9 months into a relationship, it’s not chasing to send another message.

It’s happened with my husband and I loads of times, plus all my friends and family, that I’ve forgotton to reply. Sometimes I’ve even thought I had and wondered why I heard nothing back. When I’ve checked, I’d planned to reply but got side tracked and hadn’t actually done it!

Don’t create drama for no reason. Kusy send him another message. If he doesn’t reply to that, you have a problem!

Well it’s 24 hours since and I have heard nothing

But that said, he isnt required to answer if he simply doesnt want to. If he has other stuff on his mind, then he could tell you “Sorry, is it okay if I answer later?” or something. But its kinda rude that he doesnt answer at all after 1-2 days, since you two have been dating this long time.
So give him either tonight or tomorrow, and then write to him. If he still doesnt answer, then forget about him.

Jose Thank you, it’s very strange, this the longest he ever went without contacting me.

Me and him never went through the “pulling away” stage so maybe he is doing that now.

But yeah I will give him until Monday morning.

peggy because I don’t want to encourage him ignoring myself and me going after him.

Yes we been dating that long but still we have long way to go so I don’t want get use to him disrespecting me like that.

I’m not gonna let him off very easily if he does not contact me by this evening with a good reason . If it’s me who cantacts him again, I will let him know how I feel and I don’t care if sees me as crazy

chillllllla give the guy his space, i know how you feel my boyfriend is like that too but i give him his time to think and react, and you saying you wanna curse at him, cut him off, delete him makes you a bad girlfriend, you need to realize not everything will go your way so stop acting childish and grow up, he is a man he can take care of himself, he doesn’t need to automatically answer.

Its okay that you dont get a text right away, even for hours! But guys, she said its been over 24 hours since she sent that text. I mean he could have forgotten to send the text the first 10-15 hours, but over 24? Nah, I dont buy that.

Not want to encourage him? That thought was nonsense

If you and he has the same mind set , this relationship will doom to fail

I would suggest you to wise up and start reading on emotional intelligence to get ahead and follow up with negotiation skills to jump start your relationship

Best of luck

If this is out of character I can understand why you are upset. But, why he is not responding is still up in the air for me. There could be multiple reasons but you have grabbed unto disrespect.

Once we tell ourselves a story like this automatically there is anger involved. I suggest to you that you “wonder” why he has not responded…find out and then respond.

If everything has been good then there is a very good reason to give a benefit of a doubt. Do not play games please. Just call the man (not text) and tell him straight out that you wondered why he did not respond to you….then listen carefully.

Ummm… sorry I simply don’t believe your story here. You paint a picture of wonderment and happy contentness for three quarters of a year, and then everything falls apart because he hasn’t answered a text? And you are now stalking him see when he’s online or on social media etc…. and now you are basically stating you’re intentions to ignore him and not let him off the hook etc If and when he does contact, and you aren’t going to contact him so as not to encourage bad behaviour- what are you? Ten?
I would hazard a guess that his take on your relationship is very different to yours. I would place a bet actually, that you are demanding, uncompromising, immature in your general conduct in relationships and have utterly unrealistic expectations. He likely finds you full on and oppressive and you appear to want a whipping boy.
Seriously maybe he isn’t contacting you because he needs an needs break?
This likely all sounds harsh to you and far from your reality as you perceive it, but seriously you need a reality check with a reaction like this in the context of the picture you paint.

Gemma, before jumping to conclusions and being angry at this guy have you considered calling him and figuring out what’s going on? communication is key in any relationship and being angry because he read the text message and has been online for four hours is not the best way to communicate in a relationship. there can be so many reasons why he didn’t answer your message. At this point you are just making assumptions and created in your own mind the reason why he didn’t reply to your message. talk to the guy, you guys are in a good place. You will get a better feeling about him if you talk to him on the phone.