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    Amy

    I was with my bf for 6 months and we did have our ups and downs but we got through them. I have had a history of headaches and I went to get it checked out and it turned out that I had a small blood clot. I ended up stay in the hospital for about 3 or 4 days and was released to get on bed rest. So before I went in to see the doctor on the day of I tried so hard to contact my bf and I got no answer. I called I texted I sent him FaceTimes and everything. So I did try to contact him. I ended up having to turn my phone off because, I was preparing for my procedure to help remove this clot. My phone was off for the days during my recovery for about 2 and a half days. I turn my phone on and hoping my bf text me or something. They only text I got was “I’m sick of this I’m done” he left me a voicemail saying “ I’m done with you” this hurt me to my core. How could someone I love do this to me in my time of need. He didn’t pick up calls or anything from me. I get we didn’t talk those days but I tried so hard to tell him what was going on before anything happened and he didn’t answer (he said he was sleep).
    Fast forward to a couple hours ago he finally calls and all he is doing is screaming at me demanding that I show him a picture of my wristband and my hospital paperwork. Yes I could easily have shown him but it was hurtful how he was screaming at me and not even caring how I was feeling. Nothing I said mattered to him. Nothing. It was like nothing to him that I tried to tell him what was going on before I actually was admitted and taken to have my clot removed all he did was yelled and screamed for picture of my paperwork. I had to stand my own and not send it to him because, I know what I was doing and plus I’m still in recovery at home. It hurts how he is going right to the negative with me and assuming he knows that I’m lying. Why is my word not enough? Why is he treating me like this?
    I have been though a lot with him. I’ve had a woman pop up on him at his new place while I was there and she stalked and followed us around all until the police was involved. I’ve had instances where he really accidentally merged me into a call with him and another woman. I’ve known him to text other women while talking to me. But I stayed. I know it was stupid. But I did. I have always been accused of doing everything under the Sun by him. He even accused me being with another man when I was at my mom house and my brother was there and he heard him in the background. He makes me out to be such a ugly person. And here I am knowing I was in the hospital and he yells and demands proof and makes it seem like I’m lying. I was going to show him but he didn’t give me the respect I deserved I wanted to stand up for myself. He breaks up with me and hangs up in my face after I told him no. I just need advice on how to move on because, although I did nothing wrong this still hurts.

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    Maddie

    Never put up with a man-child who makes it all about himself whenever something serious happens or when you’re in need. He’s done you a favor by bowing out. You don’t need the extra stress of his tantrums and accusations. You deserve better and to focus on your healing. It’s okay to feel sad that it took 6 months to learn that the person you were trying to build trust with and invest in isn’t worth your time. It’s okay to give your emotions a minute to catch up to what your head already knows, it takes a bit of time to mourn and process any breakup. But he sounds awful and you deserve better. Focus on your recovery from major surgery and connecting with people who support you and who make you feel good when you spend time with them. I’m sure you know deep down you deserve someone who hears you’re sick and immediately asks if there’s anything you need or what they can do to help. Not someone who projects all their own ugliness onto you in order to make you fear that you can’t do better and don’t deserve better. They keep themselves propped up by making you too afraid to leave, since they have nothing to truly offer to make a partner stay. Go no contact, and keep him blocked. And get well soon :)

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    Raven

    It’s called Projection.

    You did nothing wrong. Please find a trained someone to talk with to help you figure out why you are feeling guilty, when you are the victim.

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    tammy

    Right now all your focus should be on healing. and after your health scare, that should be your priority. total recovery. you need peaceful rest. for this, its imperative that you block out all stress and sources which give you mental stress. you don’t need his drama right now. so please just block his number from everywhere. and also on social media platforms. just block him out totally from your life for present.

    connect with good friends and family. take their help if you need. if being alone makes you sad, please have a gud friend or relative stay with you to give you company and keep up your spirit. nothing is more important than your full recovery.

    once you feel fine its important you talk this out with close friends/family and sort out your hurt. you need to deal with it and move on. don’t let it fester within you. you feel sad and betrayed. but really the foundation of any relationship has to be trust and love don’t you think? if he cannot even believe that your unwell and needs to luk at hospital records, what kind of relationship is that? if after 6 months he needs proof of your ill health, that says it all doesn’t it?

    if hes ghosted you thats great. just block him without any qualms. and if hasnt, still block him because you need peaceful stress.

    and i agree with the other posters. pls do understand that your health right now should be your priority.

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    Rubi

    I honestly would have sent him all the proof he needed to shut him up because he thinks you’re away cheating on him because you were unreachable. He thinks that because he is the one cheating. Believe me. After I’ve proven myself that he’s the only scumbag here I would and then tell him it’s over and block him out of my life from everything.

    So sorry to hear about that scare you had. I hope you have a speedy recovery and a brand new beginning to something really better for your life.

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