he said he needed space

I’m posting here so I don’t txt him
I really need support

Beth just rememberif you press send on any text to him, you’re very likely putting that final nail in the coffin of your relationship. I know that’s not what you want so the ONLY option is not to text him.

Beth, I get that your hurting but the type of pain and sorrow for a guy you’ve only been with for a short time goes beyond the normal scope of grief/anguish when your not even broken up!

Supporting you isn’t doing you any good as its feeding into our “I’m so weak” mentality which is a total turn off and probably what is repelling him from wanting to be near you. Why is it so hard for you to give a man SPACE? Why can’t you give your man some ‘me or down time’ every once in awhile? Unless your siamese twins there’s no reason why you can’t spend time apart, without communication for a couple days, as its absolutely NECESSARY to maintain some autonomy in healthy relationships.

Its good your going to counseling and I hope you find the right one who can help you in the areas that need the most work. STOP asking when/if he’ll call back or how he feels because only HE can tell you that. Forget about him for awhile and START writing down a list of things you know you need to improve, such as giving a man his space because if he does call back and your in this emotional state he will most definitely call it quits.

I don’t think this relationship will last because your so hell bent on wallowing and throwing pity parties when things don’t go your way—its a very unattractive trait to have.

Beth, you’ll feel better and more enlightened after a couple counseling sessions.

Also, next time you post on here, instead of harping on if he doesn’t miss you, post something you’re grateful for. This will both help distract you when you feel the desire to reach out, and help shift your focus.

Beth, if you’d like you can add me on my Facebook and we can chat over Facebook because I’m a single mother also (ugly divorce actually) so I can relate to how you’re feeling.
Only if you’re comfortable.

I don’t use fb

Beth.. What is it about what others post that allows you to feel “not good enough?” Have you always felt this way?

Cali
Ok

I am having a tough time people

beth, I’ve read in one book written by Barbara de Angelis that for guys, time goes approximately 8 times faster (or for women 8 times slower, I’m not sure now). of course it’s not any exact definition, it’s just we think about EVERYTHING and ALL THE TIME while men can divide things into their boxes so they’re never in one box for too long. so it’s like l said: “I’ve said “I haven’t seen you in forever, where have you been?”. He’s responded, “what r u talking about? I just saw you last week.” I reply, “It has been 3 weeks.”” —> now it’s 8 days of no contact. imagine that for him it may feel like only ONE DAY passed (like you would feel after just 1 day of not seeing someone). if he was annoyed or depressed, it’s definitely not enough for him to miss you as much as you miss him.

Tungsten you are so right and exactly the same thing happened to me. I remember being furious with a guy because I hadn’t heard from him in 3 weeks and he was totally baffled. In his mind it was only a week or so. He’d just got caught up with other things and was so upset he’d upset me.

I need your opinion please please hear me out
I got tragic news about a friend…..
there are similarties between my friend and my current man
yes im missing him but I am starting to worry