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Mary
I’ve dated this guy for a about 3 months. He initiated a chat (I didn’t feel I need to talk or define) and told me he want so keep things casual & not looking for a relationship. He said he’s okay with me dating others but would like to keep me around (as a friedn or a casual date with maybe some flirting – my decision(we had no sex yet, so without sex ofc)). I was mostly listening, trying to understand his thoughts about me, told him I need to have a think hiw I would like to proceed and process what I had heard. I also told him I have no bad feelings about him.
I have made up my mind – I’m not going to be around at all. Thinking whether I should text him just thanking for being honest and that he initiated this chat or just leave it be?
What are your thoughts? He seemed to think I am much more into him than I really am, thinking whether he could treat this as me being ‘into’ him, whereas it would probably good to somehow relate to what he said at all…and somehow ‘close’ this whole thing and not keep things awkward if I pop into him at some point, etc.
Maddie
If you might run into him again, may as well send a quick text and then delete his number. Doesn’t matter if he thinks you were more into him or not, whatever he believes about this means nothing for you and is of no consequence. Sounds like you’re not looking for a FWB whether that’s him or not, end of story, and it’s good to look out for and speak up for yourself.
“It was fun hanging out the last few months but we’re not looking for the same things. Best of luck!”
mama
I think wrapping it up with a light, short text like Maddie suggested is a good way to go in noping the heck out of that situation.
And I would take the whole issue of whether or not he thought you were into him more than you actually were with a big grain of salt. It’s his issue, not yours and it’s fine to let it go without further introspection.
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