He said that he hates me, does he really mean it?

Well, he said he did, so I guess he does.

Wow saying you “hate” someone is immature. He is obviously hurting too. Don’t take it to heart – it is like a two year old telling Mommy he hates her.

I am sorry this happened to you and you are hurting….it will get better but it will take time…don’t listen to his anger….

Sounds like a 6 year old trying to get attention. Don’t give it to him. You can say “oh, that’s too bad, I’m I supposed to cry?” … Then don’t talk to him at all. Usually when we say that we don’t mean it. You shouldn’t let that affect you.

In my experience hate is just as strong emotion as love. It’s just love twisted around in fact. Because the opposite of love is not hate, it’s neutrality. You got to him and now he’s getting back at you. Leave it. The only dignified reply is silence and don’t take it seriously.

Exactly what Raven said….

He constantly says he hates me and did nothing in the relationship he always say I never made him accomplish anything , I never listen and so the same thing , we been together 11 years, he says my mother is a bitch and is nothing like his mother who got a education. He says he is leaving , I am just fed up. Cause everything is my fault

What’s the problem? I’m sure he knows where the door is.

My bf said he hates me and doesn’t love me anymore, and that I am everything that is wrong in his life,he also said talking to be is like a chore or a job and he is happier when I am not around. He always says these things to me when he is stressed out. We are in a LDR right now because he is currently in his first year of law school. I know he is under a lot of stress right now , but why does he have to push me away and break up with me. Sometimes I beg him not to leave and say we can work it out and it angers him even more and he says very hurtful things to me like, he hates me, wants nothing to do with me and to leave him alone and never contact him again. Then theres other times when he says its over and I just don’t say a word. I don’t make any contact with him for a few days even a few weeks sometimes then I hear from him, he will usually text me with a random message or picture that has nothing to do with our last convo. Once I respond he says I love you and wants an explanation of where Ive been and how come I have not contacted him. Im so confused. He won’t apologize or even acknowledge all the hurtful things he said. He will just go on and text me like nothing like were together again. Until he gets stressed or mad about something going on in his life and I become his punishing bag and he breaks p with me all over age. I feel like I am walking on egg shells at all times anything sets him off. We could be having a good conversation via text where he is saying he loves me, planning out future joking being playful and then the next min he said I am annoying and he wants nothing to do with me. I don’t know what to do. I love him so much. I know its stupid of me to feel anything for him but I can’t help but want him to be apart of my life. We have been dating for almost 4 and a half years.

Was this after two weeks of NC? He is angry that he has lost his control over you.

As painful as it is, you have to make yourself ignore him. Don’t take the bait. Negative attention to him is better than no attention at all…he hates being ignored and gets the feeling that you’re moving on with you life. Remember, it’s all about control…not love.

That’s very immature to say to someone, even after breaking up. Is this guy in his teens? I guess I can understand why you feel duped because you feel you are in love with him, but it sounds like to me you really dodged a bullet by breaking up with him. Consider taking a sigh of relief rather than heartbreak.

Me and my soin to be childs father if 4 years have been dustance and bk and fourth for five months now he has finally told me he hate ne subday morning because of a caption over a picture of food that says a way to my heart is food , because im pregnant of course two ears and two mouths. An he sent me 21 messages saying why im evil i have evil ways bcause of my past mistakes, and theres demons around me. But i meant no harm. This all took place the night b4 because he asked me was i busy and i said nit really so he asked can we meet up later after he gets off work i replied what time he replied i will text you i said ok. Then hours went by he never called then he finally texted around 7:30 8pm to let me know he was getting iff later than he thought and his stomach felt funny and i replied ok feel better . Now usually i flip or ask questions but this time i didnt. So i took ny daughter out to eat. An as i posted pics of the cavs game and ny foid .. i later that next morning i woke up to is someibe after your heart. An then after the bk n fourth he stated he hates me.

my bf and I was having some issue days ago and he called me names like am evil, he hates me, am so stupid,am a fool. and he push me and hit my head
am so confuse I don’t no what to do I feel badly hurts