He says he doesn't want to date anyone at all

I’m not currently in a relationship and haven’t been for a few years. I’m 31 and at that point now where I’m looking for the one. I started dating a guy last month that I met through work. He was charming and always calling me gorgeous and smothered me with amazing kisses. Always opening doors and walking me to the car and getting the car door. We had gone out on our first date and everything was amazing second date was equally amazing then a few days later he had asked if I wanted to go to a GooGoo Dolls concert with him that next week and i told him I loved that band. He then told me he wanted to warn me that a few of his friends and his brother and brothers wife would also be there. I felt ok with it and still decided to go. That morning of the concert he told me that his mom had mixed up some times to do some family photos and that she scheduled them for the same day and start time of the concert. He said he still wanted us to go to the concert, but would also have to do the family photos first and asked if I minded just hanging out while they did their photos and then go straight to the concert from there. I not only met his parents but also most of his aunts and uncles and they all told me how much he had talked about me and how happy he had been since we started talking. The next few days after the concert we spent a lot of time with his family as his cousin had told him to also bring me to her wedding rehearsal dinner as his plus one and then to the wedding reception the next night. During the wedding reception his uncle had pulled me aside to tell me that Ryan (my guy) was really into me and they were happy to see him so happy. The next day (sunday) he started pulling back and wasn’t as talkative via text….I just blew it off as he was busy or that guys don’t like texting. Then the next day was a little better but still sensed the distance. On Wednesday he said he was sorry he had not been as talkative and he had a lot on his mind and was over thinking things. Some of the things he was over thinking were that things were possibly moving too fast and the age difference (I am 6 yrs older with him being 25 and me being 31) between us. He felt that with me being the age I am that I’d want things to move a lot quicker. I assured him I didn’t want to move fast either and that we could slow things down. His texting habits were back to normal as well as his charm and compliments. That Friday we had gone out for lunch in the afternoon noon and then drinks after work. Everything was romantic again. Then Sunday rolls around and he is pulling back again, Monday and Tuesday I felt like I was the only one keeping the conversation going. So finally on Tuesday night I decided I wasn’t going to push it anymore and I’d give him some space and not text him until he texted me. Friday night I had finally gotten a text from him that said “I know youre probably mad at me by this point, I’ve been trying to not overthink things. I’m really sorry I haven’t been saying anything : /” I waited until the next day (yesterday/Saturday) to reply and said “Yeah I kinda figured you were over thinking and just need some space.” He asked if I would go to lunch with him as we had both been working that day. While at lunch he proceeded to tell me that he just doesn’t want to date anyone at all right now. He talked about how he feels confused because he really likes me and when he looks at me he really wants me but also doesn’t want to date. Throughout lunch when I would look at him he would just say “stop, you are making this really hard” . I need to know if he is truly confused and still has something there for me or if he is really just pulling the “it’s not you it’s me” card. Some of his background is that 2 1/2 yrs ago he ended a 6 yr relationship because his girlfriend cheated on him and then up and moved to Alaska. He said he has had 2 girlfriends since her each only lasting not quite a year. All these relationships also ended in the month of August. Please help me understand what is going on. I really felt that we had connection and felt that there was potential for him to be the one.

I’m still in the first few chapters of your book but I’m not sure what to do now that he has said he wants to end things. Please please please help!!!