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Adel
I have a questiony. So I matched on tinder with my old schoolmate from highschool. We hit it of pretty good, he invited me to a date, but then corona happened. We continued texting. We were texting a lot a it wasn’t just short answers from him but long messages. But then he didn’t responded. It happened 2x. I always texted in few days to check on him. He was always on how he always forgets etc. Then we had real conversation on if friends with benefits or something more. We were texting already for 2 months. I told him I can’t do the first thing, cuz I always end up putting emotion into it. He was always talking about being bad with girls and relationshíps. I told him directly, that I want him to be honest and to tell me he is not interested. He said he didn’t say that, that he just needs time. After few days I texted him drunk that I want him to decide if he wants to meet me or not and to set a date. He said in funny way I shouldn’t be drinking to much. I apologized the day after and told him not to worry anymore, he saw it and never responded. It has been 3 days, should I still wait for his respond, or just give up.
mThis man is not interested in a relationship with you.
If he asked to be freinds with benefits, he does not want more.You’d been with him for 2 months – even if he wasn’t ready to be your boyfriend, he should have an idea of whether he has romantic feelings for you or not. My guess is ‘not’.
If you ask to meet and he ignores your suggestion, he doesn’t like you that much.
If he keeps not replying to comments you’d usually expect a reply for, he is not invested.If he doesn’t make an effort to message, he isn’t afraid to lose you. Nobody forgets to message for days on end if they are interested. And even if a guy did, if they care and like you enough to keep trying, all you’d have to do is mention it once, and they’ll realise their mistake.
I’m sorry, the lockdown probably has all sorts of people messaging out of boredom. There’s nothing wrong with you, but based on his behaviour it doesn’t sound like he’s really interested.
SlattenBeing brutally honest here – I think he’s not interested in having a relationship with you as he outrightly asked about you being FWB. Which is totally fine – but if you want more from him, don’t expect it – and if you don’t want a FWB situation then the best thing is to walk away now.
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