He Says He's 'In a Weird Place'?

Hi Vanessa-the “weird place” is nothing more than the place he has always been in-not very invested, using you at his convenience, not around if you need him etc. You seem to want more/better-so go get it, move on to someone that is able to have a real relationship. He will only feed you more crumbs if you let him and waste your time. I hope this helps.

Vanessa I think you did the right thing by telling him what you wanted…IMO I definetely think he will keep in touch.

Unfortunately what it appears is that he became accustomed to the hanging out whenever with you. Which could very well be what he is looking for someone to just chill with…which is not what you want. Thats fine…how do you fix it? You continue to live your life and not contact him, sleep with him or text him especially when drunk.

The key now is to “show” him your actions with your words. Hey doesn’t mean you can’t say hi when you see him or if he texts to say hi respond back. It just means your both in two different places and his interest is not strong enough to change.

listen to what he said and grant him his wish to be alone. If you want you can be friends (without benefits) with him.
you’ve done the right thing so far and you’ve kept your dignity. Well done! Be proud of yourself.
Only he can tell you what the weird place is. Only time can tell whether he will be back but im sure you can tell from this forum that the likelihood of a guy coming back is very high. What about you? Are you happy with ending things? Were you happy in the casual relationship? Are you going to start dating others?

@lovegiver I have granted him his wish, so will see what happens from here. As for me, I’m struggling with my decision, mainly because I’m not usually the strong person or the one to cut things off – I tend to be the person who waits things out because I can’t let go. To an extent I was happy with the casual relationship. I have lots of work to do, I travel a lot for work and have lots going on. At the same time, I wanted to know how he felt about me, because I never quite knew if I was just a booty call or not. I find dating a little bit difficult in my city because most people seem to be in relationships or if they’re single, they’re quite happy that way. I’ve tried the apps, but I prefer to meet people organically.

I am in the EXACT same place so know how difficult it is to walk away when you are not getting what you want. You wonder if you have cut your nose off despite your face as you liked spending time with him anyway. I personally think walking away has more of an impact on them then giving them exactly what he wants does. He will have more respect for you by not being his booty call. And if he misses you(which the likely hood is he will) he will be back. But it depends if you are up for what he is willing to offer.

A “weird” place is not with you .
When a guy wants you there’s no ‘weird’ it’s simple.
Be independent hold out for what you want.
Nobody wants “weird ”
Just saying .

It sounds much more interesting, even sophisticated, to say “I am in a weird place” than to say “I am being a wishy washy dork who wants to use you without making any effort and only when I feel like it”

Imagine a man would tell you, yes you are a booty call.

Seriously ladies, of course they’d tell you “I really like you”.

Take a big step sideways and look at the situation from the outside. It is very clear that all he wanted was a booty call. And yes he liked you. That’s why he called you.