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Mona
The guy I am dating for a month keeps professing how perfect I am. Sure I like the compliment but I have flaws like anyone else.
He sometimes appears to be too good to be true with lots of compliments. Mostly about how I look.
I sense I am not seeing the real person yet. He is trying to impress too much. I hate to think what will happen if I do something he doesn’t like.
About me being perfect – would anyone be concerned that he sees me as more of a fantasy? I wish he would compliment my intelligence, personality or sense of humour!
Leokadia
Maybe he’s just really inftuated. Tell him you have personality too, in a joking way :) Or when he begins showering you with those larger-than-life compliments start laughing loudly, snort or do something unlady-like. Try not to treat this all so seriously, relax. Being scared of appearing unperfect is unhealthy. Maybe tell him what you like about his personality and then ask what he thinks of yours. Also talk about what you want, maybe he’s not even looking for a long-time relationship. Just be casual and really relax, if it’s meant to be you both will let your guard eventually.
Lane
Your reading a bit too much into it. What he’s saying is so far your prefect for him, the type of lady he’s drawn too and fit the qualities looks, personality and energy that he’s looking for or seeks in a woman—you essentially stand out from the pack so to speak.
This will wear off as time passes so its great your keeping your wits about you and not falling for the sweet words too early. I would watch and observe this one carefully because its initially based on lust or infatuation which can evolve into a deeper love but that takes longer to develop as you strip away each other layers, expose your imperfections and can accept each other for who you really are, warts and all.
Emma
Your radar is working well. LOL Do wait to see the real him.
Ali
Compliments are lovely, but when they are only focused on your appearance I personally feel that is a giant red flag. Of course when a guy is falling for you, he’s going to be appreciating your beauty etc, but if that’s as far is it goes? Where is the substance…. ? That’s not how a good solid relationship is built, imho. My ex was like this is the beginning and honestly I ended up thinking like he ONLY thought my looks were perfect, and din’t like the rest of me all that much.
Mona
Thanks everyone. I see him as too good to be true. He complains about other people to me sometimes but that’s about all I see of the real him.
Oh he shares alot about his childhood but something just feels off otherwise. He could be a player who is acting.
Dont smooth operators pretend to go thru all the right steps? If so, this one should be given an academy award!!
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