He says my kisses bother him sometimes??

Thank you so much ms Aqua!!

Glad to hear other men have said the same. I forget sometimes men have single focus and a simple kiss can mess up the enjoyment derived from a video or baseball game ????

My oral hygiene is great! I brush and floss 2x day, he on the other hand smokes and only brushes his teeth in the morning, which sometimes makes morning sex um… Well, I have to ignore that part. Interesting that I wiuld NEVER make a point about his breath or avoid a morning kiss.

Margaret it’s nothing about your breath! You’re petting him and he isn’t a puppy or a kitten. I do it to my husband in a joking way and it drives him nuts!

Imagine if your boyfriend suddenly decided he liked the look of your bottom or breats and, with no consideration about what you were doing or the mood you were in, started to grope them? I imagine you’d feel annoyed! That’s what’s happening here.

Haha so I do! My dog also snarls at me if I get her at the wrong time! And yes my husband does the same to me, sometimes appreciated and sometimes not!

It means nothing about he’s feelings if sometimes he doesn’t want affection. Don’t be hurt by it! Encourage him to be honest and say when he finds it annoying. It may be more difficult now you got upset. Men do love the affection but love it even more if they don’t feel they have to grit their teeth during it! My husband will say “urgh get off me!” but with a big smile on his face! He gets my expression of love without me harassing him. The same the other way with the groping!

I am assuming everything else in the relationship is good apart.from this?

Some people have low tolerance to physical contact that doesn’t happen during intercourse.

For me that’s a deal breaker because I’m highly affectionate and love kissing and touching, I kiss and hug all my kids two and four legged, right now I’m cuddling on the couch with them and its the most natural thing for us.

Same with a man, if I’m not allowed to touch or kiss him as I please he’s not a good match.

It was a needy question…

You wanted validation, instead you got your feelings hurt…

^^and so supportive.

I think what Raven might be trying to say is that there was a more effective way for you to get your need for validation met. The way it was worded was kind of a loaded question. I am very affectionate. I love touch and to be touched by my boyfriend. But sometimes if I’m doing something, he touches or kisses me and I feel slightly interrupted. If I thought about it and he asked me if I’m ever annoyed by his kisses or cuddles, if I was being 100% honest, I would have to say “sometimes.”

So maybe that’s what he was doing. Men are quite literal. So when you ask a question, they think you want a literal and honest response. They don’t know that what you really want is not an honest answer, but to be told that of course your kisses are sweet and wonderful and that you are loved.

So if you are feeling that way again, maybe think about what it is that you really need and ask for that. Eg: “I’m noticing that you haven’t seemed very receptive to my kisses today and I’m feeling scared that you don’t like my affection. Would you help me with this?”

Whe you frame it along those lines, most men will happily help you feel better. and then you can negotiate how he can respond if he’s not in a touchy mood, in a way that won\t hurt your feelings.

Yes I agree with m that having a talk about it would be a good idea. You don’t want to be in a situation where you’re worried about giving affection and he’s no doubt now worried about making you feel upset.

Sometimes we don’t like to hear the truth but it is good he was honest with you. I bet his “sometimes” was in reality just a very small proportion of the times you are affectionate.

@Raven – you have a heart of stone. Truth hurts eh? Assuming, of course, you are the bearer of it.

@Margaret – and even if you were looking for a little validation, this is normal, we all need a little support and warmth and encouragement here and there. You said he smokes and you don’t like his breath in the morning and never tell him. Well, do tell him. Why are you putting up with it? Let him know it is not pleasant. And watch next time he probably won’t complain about your kisses.

Wow

This is an old post!

I’m really tired and read it as “he says he kisses my brother sometimes”…That’s one I haven’t seen on here before!

I didn’t realize