He seems to be losing interest, what to do?

Another thing that may or may not be relevant to this: just before I went on my holiday he mentioned that he had a friend visiting from his home country and he was going to show her around. When I came back and we met up briefly he mentioned his friend was staying with him. I didn’t ask any further details but I understood she was here temporarily but not sure if shes another FWB or a normal friend. Could be a reason he doesn’t want to invite me over lately.

stop reaching out to him because when you do that & a guy ignores you, it just makes you feel worse & makes him see you as desperate. you’re attached to someone who doesn’t feel the same. he should be the one contacting you & making plans, not you, you’re taking on the male role & it turns guys off. he’s trying to let you go without hurting your feelings. I know it sucks, but don’t talk to him anymore.

But i understand where she s coming from, being an fwb should mean, she can ask for it too, no? I think where he kind of freaked out is when u told him you ll miss him, never say that to a guy you aré not yet sure about. Especially that he was already texting/communicating less, and you also Came around strong with all that initiation, as that seemed forced to get him to talk, personaly, i Dont even enjoy a communication with a guy when i Have to be the first to write. I am in a similar situation with my fwb, he didnt answer my last text from a week ago, so there is no more from my side. He wont Have the oportunity to blow me off again cause that is in my power. Im sure he ll be in touch with me, but by that time, i ll be over him. Treat life like a dog, if you cant play with it eat it or f it, piss on it and walk away! Kidding ;)

Thanks for the responses so far ladies. I agree that it seems best just not to contact him and see what happens. Sometimes I just can’t resist though, and then it makes me feel worse when he doesn’t respond.

This morning he did respond to my text that I’d sent about 24 hours earlier, but didn’t seem keen to engage in a long texting conversation and it died fast. He said he’d deleted Tinder to concentrate on his business and other stuff for a few weeks and was going out of town for a few days for Christmas.

I never had the intention of a long term relationship with him and was happy with FWB, but I do at least expect the courtesy of a timely reply to messages and making time for me when I want it too, not just when he wants. If I am always waiting for him to initiate messages then it becomes more about catching up or chatting when he wants to, does it not? Women have needs too and not just men.

Lane I hear what you’re saying about not having sex but don’t get why women should have to say no in situations where we want it as much as the man does. I’m not someone who likes to play games, I just like to do what I feel like and what makes me happy. And no I don’t have the intention of sleeping with heaps of men, I would only have one casual relationship at a time but would expect that one to be stable and to be able to talk to the person about other things as well and generally maintain a friendship.

I think it’s very inappropriate and rude for someone to fade away with no explanation after being intimate with someone for a couple of months, no matter whether it’s a relationship or not. It also happened to me with a couple of other guys from online dating, though I wasn’t as invested in them. This behaviour isn’t something that women should just “be ok” with. I just need some kind of closure, a confirmation from him that he isn’t interested in hooking up or chatting anymore, and then I can move on. But not something I will get if I just stop contact.

Treat him like hé treats you, casually. Dont give him more. If the sex was good, hé ll come around. Hé has someone there now, whom hé is possibly sleeping with, and you have to be ok with that. When hé s done with her, assuming you wanna casual with him, create or use an opportunity to be around him and when that happens, look your best and seduce the f*ck out of him. That is your only chance to keep this going. Not by texting or virtual contact, but by casual, face to face encounters.

Put the ball in his court and let him contact you. If he does great and if not move on. Any person who is unresponsive, does not have the decency and courtesy to simply reply back to you is not worthy of your time. Why put you through the torture, heartache and worrying about is he going to text me back? Or call me back? It is clearly his problem not yours. He’s just being a fool denying himself the pleasure of your company. There are other men out there worth your time who will be responsive and reciprocate. Guys love the whole thrill of the chase bit. It’s that whole human being thing of wanting what we cannot have. Perhaps if you make yourself unavailable he will realize what he’s missing and come back for more? If he doesn’t get in touch, move on it wasn’t meant to be. Honestly, do you want a man who doesn’t respond to your messages? You deserve to be treated with respect no matter how busy someone is. His blowing you off is not okay or acceptable. So why reward bad behavior. Good luck and keep your chin up.