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Lauren
So I just received some photos from a guy I’m currently dating. As usual he sent me a few photos from his day, most of them from a hike he did. But three really stood out for all the wrong reasons. One of them were of his bare, hairy legs in the bath tub. Another one was his reflection in a window while he was sunbathing in his briefs with his shoes and socks on. The last one was a close up of a blister on his foot, that he got after the hike due to his new hiking boots. I didn’t ask for nor did I want to see any of these photos.
Recently, he’s also sent quite a few selfies. Often when he’s out hiking, he will take several ones in different spots, and send them all. I hardly ever take any selfies, much less send any, so to me this is a bit over the top. I must add, he does take a lot of photos, not only selfies, but I find the amount of selfies a bit concerning.
Yesterday I got one of him sitting in his living room shirtless. It was just his head and bare shoulders visible, but still. He said he wanted to send it as the evening light was so nice. I’m sure it was supposed to make me happy, but I just find it awkward. He’s a nice guy and I’m afraid he’ll take offense if I ask him to tone it down, as he seems a bit sensitive. How much of a red flag is it? Would I be too quick to write him off at this point?
Raven
Ignore & don’t reinforce the behavior…
T from NY
Would def be a turn off for me as well. Gawd! Men and they’re damn selfies!! I have also found that men that take a lot of selfies are usually talking to a lot of women…. But if this guy is otherwise good to you, consistent, and not self-absorbed in other ways — I would just put it down to him wanting to keep you thinking of him and sharing his life.
(I wouldn’t like it either though. I prefer men who have better things to do than being preoccupied taking pics of themselves.)
warasen
The bare legs are no big deal, it could be worse it could be completely naked while hiking. That would be a red flag.
kaye
Absolutely agree with L!! LOL However, I’ve been on the receiving end of selfies from a guy I dated and it was a TOTAL turn-off to me! As I don’t do selfies or feel a need to document everything I do from what I eat to where I am or where I hiked, or got a blister, etc. I think social media seems to have made people into a bunch of narcissists! It’s ridiculous. Thank goodness I married a man who has absolutely no presence on social media and despite the fact he’s hot doesn’t feel the need to take pictures of himself!
I’m assuming this guy isn’t just some other stuck up jerk or you wouldn’t be seeing him. And hurting a guy’s ego early in the dating process is something I would be reluctant to do so I would start off subtle. Maybe when you’re together and your phone starts dinging from text messages or something you can say, “that’s my friend Mary, she’s one of those people who thinks she needs to send me a selfie or a picture of everything she’s doing. I’m much more in tune with enjoying the moment you’re in and not takings pictures and sending them to people! Maybe she’ll grow out if it at some point!” And then laugh it off. Maybe he’ll get the picture! (do you see what I did there? :) )
Joselyn
This would be a turn off for me too, but as others have said, if he’s otherwise nice, then it’s probably just his way of sharing bits of his life. I think Kaye’s advice was a good one, to bring it up in a very subtle way. From my experience, most men who loves to take an abundance of selfies are either self absorbed, insecure or both.
Eliz
So cringe.
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