He Sent Me A Text Meant For Another Woman!!

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July 9, 2017 at 11:22 pm #640171

Destinee

We have been dating for 3 months. He pulled back. We had the conversation and he told me that he wasn’t ready for a commitment but he was really attracted to me and still wanted to date.

What hurt the most is when he said “he normally feels that by now” whatever “THAT” is. I backed away from him for about a month and found that I really missed him. So I sent him a text basically saying that I missed being around him and if we could get together soon?

He responded within seconds with absolutely yes! I was feeling really good. fast forward – I sent him another text asking how he schedule was? He responded immediately again saying he was closing out a work project and couldn’t get together for a few days.

I told him not to worry about it and focus on work and just reach out when he was available. WELL!!! To my surprise he sent me a text within 15 minutes asking another girl to come over and hang out with him or they could play.

I sent a text backing saying ” I don’t think that was meant for me” Its been almost a week and no response. :( Is he embarrassed and don’t know what to say or is he just into someone else and just hope I get the message?

Thanks Guys <3

July 9, 2017 at 11:39 pm #640173

Jules

He’s embarrassed and you know he’s definitely “dating” others. I say “dating” because really what this guy is after is FWB.

Take this as your time to decide–are you okay being one of the many girls he’s sleeping with or are you wanting more from this situation?

If you want more, you need to walk away. Going back because you missed him is settling for crumbs. You’re basically telling him, “I don’t need or deserve a real relationship from you, I willing to take whatever you’ll give me”. The problem with situations like this is the person who has the control (him in this case) will push to see how far they can go. Basically, “how disrespectful can I be before she really walks?”

This text was a blessing in disguise. Keep on, keepin’ on.

July 10, 2017 at 12:00 am #640175

Amanda

This does not sound like a good guy. Dating around I get – but sleeping around (which he is obviously doing) goes below a bar I will not accept. My guess is he is too embarrassed to ever get back to you. Why would you settle for him anyway? Dating is a wack a mole game. If you want a reltionship then move on after a guy says he is not feeling it. There is a lot of fish in the sea and you need to throw a lot back before you find a keeper.

Also, I’m curious: how obvious was it that it was for another woman?

July 10, 2017 at 12:06 am #640177

Amz

Urgh! This guy has told you he doesn’t want a relationship but you’re still hoping? Even after he sent a text to another woman asking her to hang out instead? Wow!!!

Get some self-esteem and self-respect pronto. Don’t put up with a guy’s lazy excuses to keep you at arms length whilst you keep ignoring the signs and reaching out for his half-a**ed attention. This guy is showing you exactly who he is and exactly how he feels about you (pretty indifferent/one of his many options) but you’re not paying attention.

Walk away and stay away and figure out why you tried to get back together with a guy who so clearly couldn’t give you what you deserve, even before you found out he was dating others.

July 10, 2017 at 3:59 am #640205

Hannah

So he was “too busy” to see you (which was a lie), but he has time to see someone else?

No wonder he didn’t respond. He’s unintentionally made his feelings very clear. He’s probably embarrassed and into someone else.

You now know he’s feeding you a line and he’d rather see someone else than you. You don’t need any more information to forget about this man. Never be someone’s second (or 3rd or 4th) option.

July 10, 2017 at 6:12 am #640225

Tallspicy

Well, I am sorry, but this man has been consistent with you. He was not engaged in the relationship and he is not engaged out of it. He told you he did not feel it, and never stopped dating. You reached out to him. If he had missed you, he would have contacted you. Take this as an important lesson. Never contact an ex unless you are ok with them dating others. Btw, he might not have contacted you for a week anyhow.

July 10, 2017 at 8:21 am #640238

Paige

SMH….this guy ignored you for a month and you reached out?

There is a reason he didn’t reach out and now that you know why, it’s best that you move on.

July 10, 2017 at 10:02 am #640252

L

You texted a man that you ‘missed him’ who TOLD you he wasn’t wanting a relationship with him? There is so much wrong here my head is hurting.

July 10, 2017 at 10:45 am #640274

Emma

Destinee, he is not into you. He goes MIA for weeks and sleeps with other women, tossing you aside for someone else. What else do you need to know? why do you even ask?

June 20, 2019 at 4:16 pm #754396

Lori

I travel for my job and stay in 2 different cities. My boyfriend sends a text are you still (#$##) city. Which is not either of the cities I stay in. They text was obviously for someone else. What should I say to him. I am now hurt by this

June 20, 2019 at 4:20 pm #754397

Anon69

I find it hard to believe he would have another girl that also travels during that same time period in another city. He probably was just confusing the city names and wasn’t trying to text someone else. I would let it go and try not to be so paranoid.

June 20, 2019 at 4:55 pm #754400

Raven

What has happened to communication?

June 21, 2019 at 12:10 am #754449

Madeline

He probably sent that message on purpose to get you off his back. Hes not interested in you but couldn’t say it directly

Please dont look like a low value woman by getting in touch with him again.

June 21, 2019 at 12:52 am #754451

tammy

delete his no and forget about him. next pls.

June 6, 2020 at 10:21 am #792445

Gill

My fwb has just had major heart surgery is now out of ICU
I text to say how
Pleased was he’s doing so well and to rest as much as can for his recovery
He then sent a text with his ex girlfriends name back to me
Should I be worried?

June 6, 2020 at 1:19 pm #792451

Raven

You’re only FWB…

June 6, 2020 at 6:20 pm #792454

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Hi Gill, sorry to hear that!

Your reply shows up on a topic that is really old. You’re welcome to open up a fresh new thread to talk to our community for advice. Best wishes!
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