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Tallspicy
As to his text,here is your responce….
Happy weekend to you too! Gym + drinks + mellow unplanned Sunday = happy girl :-). You?
Then he knows you are free and can ask you out
Veronica
@Tallspicy
Thanks! You are right, I was actually anxious but now I am getting better! I hung out with another guy last night and it made me feel way better~~
I guess here’s why I felt anxious, my dating profile says “NOT looking to hook up” and he asked me out so I assumed he knows I am not gonna be a easy lay, and then on our first date I asked him what are you looking for while we were having drinks(I know .. I should have asked it when we were taking walks or something, not drinking), he said he is looking for something long term with the right person (but he doesn’t want to feel on the agenda) and he subtly mentioned that he is also open for other possibilities (casual things), even though he is kinda of shady about that part but I picked it up.
Anyway, I wanted to ask him again next time when we are together what is he looking for? Considering I have already asked him once at that bar, is there another different approach I could take here?
Thanks
Tallspicy
One last thing that is going to be harsh. He has no tracks to cover. You have no idea what that text was about other than your overactive imagination. He owed you no explanation, and there is 0 proof in my opinion that it was related to other women.
I know you like him. I get that. So never discuss other women with someone you are dating again. Let your wants, needs and expectations be expressed clearly and see if you are aligned. It won’t be hard if you are on the same page….
Tallspicy
How many times have you been out. He told you what he is looking for. So no need to ask him. Just keep dating, and when you get physical say you love fooling around, find him super attractive, want to ravish him, but for you that is when you are exclusive. You can decide that together as you get to know him.
Tallspicy
Men who want to be your boyfriend, act like boyfriends in the 6-10 week mark. They clear the deck and escalate. Until 6 weeks, just have fun, and make the sex message clear.
Veronica
Ok, we have been out 6 times. And I just replied the guy’s text this morning.. I didn’t want to deal with him last night.. And I said “I am going to play tennis with friends today:)” and he said ” Sounds like fun! I stayed in town this weekend would be great to see you again if you are available.” Guy mentioned yesterday that he is gonna be back to philly this weekend.
So far, I shouldn’t hold anything against him, I might go out with him tmrw and am just going to roll with the flow now.
Tallspicy
Here is all you need to say:
Their loss is my gain ;-). I’m free Sunday afternoon. What did you have in mind?
Rose
“not sure you sent the last text to the right person~ but happy Friday :)”
Your text sounds passive aggressive. Next time just ask, “what do you mean?” … No need to imply he’s dating others.
You have to calm down and take things as they develop.
Veronica
Thanks ladies! I appreciate it!
Anonymous
He’s talking about football.. smh 3rd and 33 means 3rd down and 33 yards till a first down.
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