He sent me these texts

I don’t,M.,,, he does…sorry for the visual

Hi Dauny. I was referring to the way he persuaded her to see him. I don’t know about his sexual behavior. I don’t think your situation can be related to hers.

Given your last post I seriously think if you don’t see why you should leave him, you should consider getting some “help” yourself… That whole first paragraph made me feel so badly for you. The fact that he’s capable of convincing you that sex is the only thing that makes you feel better so you oblige is almost sickening. THIS is the difference between being a manipulator *him and being easily manipulated *you. F*CK NO will you EVER be getting a*s from me unless it’s something I want to do… Yes, maybe you’ll have a bad day and I know sex will make you feel better so I don’t initially want to do it but the fact that I want to comfort you and make you happy makes me want to do it= I’m still enjoying it and funding it satisfying for MYSELF in a circumstance like this. Back in the day men used to beautifully court women… Somewhere along the way we lost some of our dignity and they lost respect. So sad

I am feeling sad reading that. I never thought of it this way. I read that he is probably a selfish dickhead and I haven’t been able to see it. If this is true, I probably need to love myself and do what I enjoy most without being interrupted by him and I need to keep on reminding myself why I am doing this.

I just saw a new girl being added to his FB. We are all mature and over 30 here but hey FB is not a toy. Grown ups do use that to connect. I cannot see where she came from, I am just assuming too much and not liking it.

Ashley, was hoping you would see this. Thanks for your post. I am just lost here!! I tolerated his texts and then I supported him and this is what I get !! I want to not just end this but make him realise first what he has been doing or has done! I am full of hurt feelings and out of words here :/

Anon, I’m sorry if I made you feel bad, I just hope you know when you look deep into your core that you deserve the best. And someone out there was made specifically to fulfill all of those desires. We all go through this, we all fall for below par guys or stay in unstable relationships so I don’t want you to think there’s anything “wrong” with you… My friends and family are more cynical than myself & I just truly still believe in and have faith in that whole-hearted, deep, almost destined, love… I’m only saying that if this isn’t THAT for you, how you imagine the purest form of love, let it go because I just can’t help but believe it’s out there for everyone :) and if you settle for anything less, you’re truly missing out on what makes life worth living.

S, I wasn’t just referring to what you said. There was a lot of talk about manipulation. Maybe I hit reply on the wrong spot. Being worrying about being punished in bed and what OP describes in later post sounds a lot like my experience with a master manipulator with narcissistic and even sometimes cruel tendencies.

How would you suggest I handle it this time? Thanks xx

anon when he went out with friends he was fine wasnt he?? U are not his mom. you don’t have to text back at nite. u make it v easy for him to walk all over u. no wonder he takes u for granted. I know most people here advice to walk away. u don’t want to. u probably want him to be less selfish and more considerate. but ur still letting urself run at his back and call.

Hi Anon, the only way that works is that u tell him how much u love and need him.
I am like ur bf. Many a time I do wierd things that even I don’t understand myself. But I figured that it all because I wanted his attention. When he sticks with me through all the hard time I gave him, I know he truly loves me. The only way to deal with someone like me is to ignore all the bad things just like my bf and continue to show u love and care. It will have a profound effect on the other person. But I admit not everybody can do it like ny bf.

Relationships can have all sorts of problems . I want to try to work it out before I give up. I love him after all.

I don’t always believe in walking out. if he’s not like this then move on. if he does not do that then move on. it all comes down to u. u obviously resent him being like this. taking you for granted. that’s y you are on this site. and hence your post.

all I am saying is that try putting your foot down at times and don’t always let him walk all over u. or get his way. no just connect with him tomorrow. he avoided u the whole day. so U can certainly message him after few hours tomorrow. dnt be mean don’t be rude. because that’s not your style I think. but u can be firm and put ur foot down.

he was fine before then texts you he is “not well” like what? sorry but do you know how ridiculous this sounds? if you are still entertaining this guy then don’t be surprised with his antics because you are basically sending the message you will put up with anything & that is not a good message to put out