He still txt other girls and on tinder when he with me!!!

Thanks fairlycake for your suggestion.I packed all the things and left his house yesterday. he did txt me asked hows my surfing goes. i didn’t reply.and today he txted me again asked why i ignored him. I txted him back said i need space and he said txt him back when i wanna talk. I just don’t get it .Since when relationship is so hard to keep ?and is it that hard to be clean and to stay faithful in a relationship?Should i move on? or i should just let him be? Pls give me more direction sisters.

Maybe he is young and new to the excitement of discovering all the available girls out there. If he is older then he may have felt happy early on but became restless when the relationship neared the 3 month mark. 3 months is a classic time for guys to start to feel smothered or pressured to become more serious. The hometown girl may be nothing, if it was good he wouldn’t have asked you out. The new one is the worry. Be patient – quick question – what do you mean you were helping him with finances?

I paid for him a lot when we go out. He always said he doesn’t have enough cash on hand or his bank account have some problem that can’t not withdraw the money. I thought since we r together, maybe shouldnt overrate about the money. He used to say the reason why he likes me because i am simple. Now i feel ironic. To fall so fast and trust someone so easily.:(

When a man starts letting you pay… and expecting you to pay… because he can’t/won’t… time to get out.

next time don’t put so much effort in & certainly no money! girls put in a ton of effort & then we are confused when the guy doesn’t appreciate it. the girl is not supposed to be doing all this effort, the guy is. a girl is only supposed to do something nice for a guy AFTER he did a few nice things for her. and even then, all the effort should be at a minimum. a guy will only appreciate you if he has to work for you. if you let a guy know you are way more into him than he is you, it will always backfire. this guy is a jerk though he is not relationship material. don’t waste any more of your time & cut him off with no explanation

“So basically he has someone in his hometown for 5 months and be with me for 3 months and now he is chasing another girl??? WTF. Why he did this to me?”

He likes to have multiple women, some men do that. If they claim to be exclusive that is called cheating and it’s not a good relationship partner quality.

If you are certain that he has been with you and said exclusive yet is with and pursuing other women then why would you even want this kind of guy in your life anyway? He’s already shown you who he is and it’s not going to get better than that but I would think it’s a good idea for you to practice some direct communication and ask him about this Tinder thing.

Going forward I wouldn’t lead the relationship with so much effort, I bet if you knew your effort was helping him have more money for new dates you wouldn’t have paid. No wonder he never had money, you weren’t the only girl. Pretty effective strategy the guy had. Unfortunately for you, but some men do this so it’s a learning opportunity.

Checked back in to see how it’s going and ugh – what a using creep! Next we’ll hear how he had a rough childhood or was abused … any excuse with a grifter – that’s what you have on your hands. 3 months is nothing – wipe the floor with him and get back on Tinder, go to places real men – not boys, hang out. Follow your hobbies and interest, get out to see bands, get a wing girl – expose him on Tinder lol

Thank u all for the suggestion.It mean a lot for me.the reason why i havent break up with him right away since we already planed a trip to travel in 2 weeks.and already paid for the flight.i didn’t expect the guy i am seeing would did this to me.and now just dont know what to do.

you can go on the trip with someone else. PLEASE, I BEG you, do not take this man on a trip you paid for!!! Especially not after this. Bring a girlfriend or even go alone if you have to. Honestly.

The thing about giving is that when a man gives to a woman it usually makes her like him more, right? So it only makes sense you would want to “treat others how you want to be treated.” But with men and women, we almost have to treat them the opposite of how we want to be treated. It’s so funny because men love to feel appreciated. Yet when we do something for them, how often do they express appreciation? Hardly at all, for most of them (even if they feel appreciation, they don’t often show it). When a man gives to you, the best reward you can give him is your happiness and appreciation. Giving to him will actually make you less valuable in the long run.

Please don’t take this asshole on a free holiday. It will lower your self respect and you will be that much more invested in him.

“A relationship with a man should be the icing on the cake of an already full and happy life, not the cake itself!” ..That was beautifully said!

I agree with others. I hope you have already dumped that tindrwhore.

You deserve so much better. You deserve a guy who chases YOU and makes you feel special.

I know it might be difficult, esp now in february due to that despised V-day coming up…but you did the right thing by moving out. You showed him that you’re in control and you’re not willing to waste your time on him. Don’t second guess your decision, dont think that ‘maybe i should have given him a second chance to explain himself’. As others have said, a man who cheats and cant commit to you in the beginning of the relationship….will prob cheat on you and go back on tindr later on as well if there’s any obstacles.

Be thankful that you found out early and you didnt invest any more of yourself (and money!) on him.

Go on that trip, don’t you dare think about bringing him along. Bring along a girlfriend and celebrate your chance to meet new hotties who are worthy of you!!!