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Julia Rose
I’ve known this guy for almost 2 years but we just recently started dating because we were at good places in our lives. It was pretty intense. He told me that he’s been looking for a girl like me for a very long time, how perfect I am for him, how he has very strong feelings for me, that he couldn’t leave me alone if he tried, that he’s head over heels, but then says that he is scared to love me, but will love me regardless.
Then the very next day, he ends it. He told me he needs to be alone right now, isn’t ready for a serious relationship and that’s where this was headed. He said that he’s a bad boyfriend and it would all come down on me in the end. And just like that, he stopped talking to me. He hasn’t spoken to me since. He still follows me on Instagram, and I did tell him that I was removing him from social media because it’s way too hard for me to see his name pop up and I need to move on. The day after that, he started liking my pictures, even though he didn’t even do that while we were dating. But he still hasn’t contacted me.
I’m begging anyone to help me understand all of this. I’m so lost. I don’t get it. I don’t even understand why he completely stopped talking to me. Or randomly start liking my photos.
I want him back, but I don’t know what to do. How can he feel so strongly and then not the next day?! How can you go from saying I’m all you think about and then completely ignore me?
Advice?! :(
Julia Rose
I should also mention he said this moved too fast too soon, even though he was the one that was gung-ho about us being together, and me being his girlfriend. I was moving at his pace, even though I told him we should take our time.
Khadija
Julia Rose,
Please take whatever a man says at face value. He’s told you he won’t make a good boyfriend and isn’t ready for a serious relationship.
Do you really want someone back who tells you these things?
I’d hate to see you here a few months down the line asking for advice about this relationship.
Having love for someone and being in love are two different things. If he was in love there would be no way that he’d want things to end.
At this point go ahead and unfollow him on IG and begin the healing process. Also stay out of contact, no texting or responding to those generic hello how are you texts.
When you meet a guy who is ready for love things won’t be this way.
peggy
Hi Julia-I agree with the others-no matter why,if he can’t be “all in”,then just move on. Also,do not try to be “friends “with him again-that will just add to your distress. Good luck.
JC
How? By being mentally unstable. You dodged a bullet.
Lane
This was a case of infatuation (aka “mad love”) which is based on high levels of hormones that is not sustainable. Its like a dopamine and adrenaline rush like diving out of an he airplane or riding a tall and fast roller coaster where its thrilling but eventually reality strikes and you come crashing down! I’ve experienced it and TRUST ME…they do make bad boyfriends!
I would cut all contact asap and let this one go.
redcurleysue
Any man who walks away from you can continue walking….
He did not know what the hell he was doing….let Fog Man go.
Julia Rose
Thanks guys. I really appreciate everyones input. It’s just been hard because it came out of nowhere and I’m left trying to put the pieces together of what happened.
Hannah
Think of a man who’s infatuated like a drunk person! They’re so high on endorphins and testosterone, they don’t know what they’re doing or saying. Then at some point, they come back down to earth with a bump.
Don’t go at a man’s pace, go at your own. And don’t take what a man says seriously at the start of a relationship. If he’s still saying it after 6 months, he means it. Before that, he’s most likely infatuated and that can fade pretty quickly.
Meli
I think I know this guy <3 I was his soul mate… he loves me and within a week of that, he had to “pull away”… So, whether he is insane, high on endorphins or a straight up liar, this is NOT OK. Mine gave me words… but I have to say that his daily actions didn’t measure up and clearly his running away action is unacceptable. For me, this is a man who I will never be able to trust or feel safe with because of HOW he handles his feelings, not because of his feelings. <3 I wish you peace and the love that you deserve.
LaughingAllTheWay
No, you really do not want him back. He’s a mess. There isn’t an explanation. Don’t waste your time trying to analyze double talk. Just be glad he took his brand of crazy somewhere else, because you were never going anywhere with him.
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