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Ren
My boyfriend of 9 months went MIA. We text and phone everyday. If he’s busy he’ll usually call late at night to say he’s tired or he was with family/friends.
Yesterday, he’s not texted or phoned. He’ll usual start the text conversation with a good morning as he wakes up before me. However, not a single text from him yesterday and today. I managed to refrain from texting and simply called him after work yesterday but he didn’t respond. He’s been online so he saw the missed call. And he’s been only this morning.
I’m alrighty with my guy not texting and needs some space, but I don’t appreciate not hearing from him with a word. I’m sure he can manage a quick ‘hey, I’m neediness some space’ or ‘ I’m swamped today’.
What should I do?
Newbie
I would send a good morning text and then say: youre so quiet, is all ok?
Sandra
It’s over. Move on.
Anon
It could be anything. Did something strange or off happen in your relationship recently? It’s hard to give advice unless there is some factor that possibly led to not communicating. Again, however, it’s been a day so probably wouldn’t worry about it too much
Zoe
I would definitely NOT call or text anymore. You already did once. Dont let the man tell you in your face that he doesnt want you.
He will definitely call you with lame excuse again but trust me this is just the beginning so I would prepare myself for the way outLane
I’ve done this to my BF when I was dealing with a lot of stuff and didn’t have the energy to discuss it as that would take extra energy I simply didn’t have. I know he was feeling like you did, as he was very concerned, I could feel it in his texts where I wanted to say something but I just didn’t want to “talk about it” so not talking to him was the best solution I came up with at the time. I eventually did reach out saying I’m dealing with something major and can’t talk right now, give me some time as I need to work thought it”…something along those lines to say it didn’t have anything to do with him but work related.
At nine months he could be coming to a crossroads as to whether or not he see’s a real future with you? I would step back and give him lots and lots of room to “miss you” because the more a man misses you when you’re not in his presence the better you’re odds of it progressing towards a full commitment. Just busy yourself with other stuff, be as absent and distant as possible. Why? Because men fall in love in a woman’s ABSENCE—if they can’t stand to be away from you then you’ve got a good shot of it moving towards a deeper relationship.
This could be a big relationship test so don’t freak out, remain calm, grounded and see what he does in the next few days.
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