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Kimlo
I broke up with my ex this Sunday. I asked immediately after breaking up for my things in his car back. I said you can put them in my mail box but i really need my house key back. He said “I’m sorry and I’ll drop them off” two days later he texted me and said “can i come see you can we have sex?” And i said “where is my stuff you said you were bringing? And he didn’t respond
Why isn’t he bringing my stuff to me
Tallspicy
Just forget the stuff and change your locks. Why? Because breakups suck and people act irrationally.
Kimlo
My landlord is refusing to change the locks
Raven
No way…
Maddie
Sounds like he’s unwilling to let go and probably wants to hold on to your stuff hoping for another chance to either get you in bed or get you back if he gives you some time to cool down. So your stuff because a bargaining chip tactic. Which means he’s very immature and you did the right thing in breaking up, but you may not get your stuff back for a while because he’ll want you to keep reaching out as an excuse to stay connected and wait you out (instead of accepting the breakup). Either that, or he’s a total butt who likes playing power games to make himself feel better when he gets rejected. Not a good look for him either way.
Maddie
*becomes a bargaining chip
Kimlo
I told him that he can drop it in my mailbox that he didn’t need to personally hand it to me
KarinaDogLover
Can you explain your situation to your landlord and have the lock changed? If it is only about the cost of changing it I would have to say it is worth it, just change it out of your pocket then inform your landlord and give him/her one of the spare key for their keeping if that’s what they need. Keep the original lock and keys for your landlord to keep also if that’s what they want.
You ask for your items back and he asks for sex without telling you when he will return them or what he wants (what bothers me most is he is not asking you to be back together, he is just asking for sex, so he dosen’t want you back). This is extortion in my eyes. You would not know when you would get your items back or if ever you would get your items back even if you do whatever upon request. Do you want to be held hostage by like a set of keys or certain belongings? If those are items you must get back I think you might need external help, any neutral parties between you two (friends) could help you in this case?
Kimlo
I have and my landlord is telling me i have to buy the utensils to change my locks and it’s coming out of my security deposit. But i jus rather not do all of that and him put the key in my mailbox
Raven
How badly do you want your locks changed?
Rox
It’s the cost of the locks you just need to take to move on.
Persephone
I agree- just pay for the new locks already. Also, keep in mind that he could have made a copy of that key. I’d just consider the cost of the locks security and peace of mind. And I feel like if you don’t get new locks and keep insisting he give you the key that you’re playing games as much as he is.
Kimlo
I’ve talked to my landlord and he really isn’t trying to do the labor of lock changing .. so i have any other options
Kimlo
I even told him he could drop it in my mailbox he didn’t have to put it in my hand just put it in the mail box or slip it under my door
Tallspicy
You are not listening. You like this drama or you would not insist upon it. You are the problem, not him. You dont need any of these things back… you just want to stay connected to all of this.
Kim love
He has my house key and my landlord isn’t trying to change my locks i told him to drop it off in my mailbox … what part is being connected? I don’t babe to be there for him to drop my stuff off
Raven
You can call & pay for a locksmith to come & change the locks.
Your landlord has the right to charge you if they do the re-key. This is not the landlords problem (entitled much) it’s Your problem…
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