He won't call me

You better calm down quick. Are you getting ready for your visit from Auntie Flo?

He likes you. Don’t blow it by letting the insecure in you come out.

If you feel ignored, he IS NOT responsible for your inner feelings.

Those are your feelings. It is a very mature concept, and probably way over your head, the concept of not forcing others to be responsible for your feelings.

How can I explain it? It’s a mistake to assume others should do what you would do. You expect him to call you because that is what you would do.

And he probably will call. But you want it on your timing

We have to catch ourselves if we find ourselves judging others by what we think they ought to do.

I’m certain he is as interested in you as ever. You have to be respectful and not put your wishes as his obligation to produce.

This is complicated.

Bottom line, you are about to demand that he accommodate, take responsibility for your feelings.

It’s called emotional maturity or something like that, look it up.

He didnt phone because he didn’t want to. He didn’t want to answer to you when you made the request. The guy has a right not to call.

If he declines to call on his own initiative or when you ask, then take it as a sign this is nothing serious on his part. He may prefer a casual relationship.

I think it is awesome that you asked for what you want. Very adult. Make sure you ask nicely (hey there handsome, it would feel great to hear your voice)

I am not impressed that he ignored you. That said, if it happens every now and then, then let it go. If it happens often, then this man is not going to make a good partner. Why I say that is that you can only make requests and see if they fulfill them.
The holidays are tough.

Asking someone to call is not unreasonable if they are your official partner or moving towards it.

Btw, if you have been seeing this guy more than two months and he is not your boyfriend, you should cut bait soon. If he cannot or does not want to lock it down after 8-12 dates, he never will.

Hi everyone, thanks for the input. we are both late 20s/early 30s. I think I will see how things are when we are both back in town after the holidays.

Obviously i dont know either of you or your relationship, but not everyone likes talking on the phone! Like i know on here the general consensus is that “adults call, don’t text! and if you dont talk over the phone the relationship is worth zippo”. But as BOS said, talking over the phone sucks! I hate it…i mean haaaaaaate it and i ll do anything to get out of it or at least put it off! People are different! if a call is really important to you, why dont you call him?

To those of you who “hate talking on the phone”–should the use of phones then be limited to texting. Would you text your grandmother or call her? If you want to talk to your best friend or boss for something important would you compose a giant text? A man who can’t bother dialing a phone number (actually swiping a screen and touching a button) in my opinion needs to grow up. Chivalry isn’t dead but soon enough it will be because of stuff like this…

Lean back and chances are he will call. ;)

@Ames
Do you really not understand the difference between “hate doing” and “can’t be bothered to do”. At least answer the point made rather than making up a different one.