He won't let me come to his

I’d be very wary of this. Are you sure he isn’t married or with a girlfriend?

No I’m not.
However He doesn’t message or call me every evening.
He has stayed at mine a lot of weekends. If he was married how would he hide that from his wife.

I see all kinds of red flags. My first thought is also that he has a girlfriend or wife.

Not ever allowing you over to his place is a flag, all the stories are flags, the cancellations are a flag.

I think this guy is wasting your time. This is all too weird. I would move on from this one. I definitely would not continue an exclusive relationship with someone acting this flaky.

At the very least I would want to be dating other people and keep my options open.

No I actually met him at a coach station. He was going back to the city he had moved from to sort out some things with a property he had bought and I was on the way to see family. We got on the same coach as my family live near to where he had moved from. He started talking to me and we clicked.

Of course he can! My ex fiancee hid the fact very well that he was living with someone, only he did not let me come to his place and when finally confronted with it, he admitted it. Too bad that by that time I had fallen for who I thought this man was and was stupid enough to continue leading up to disaster.

Men can leave for the weekend no problem, he does not live so close to you. My ex fiancee had his own business and travelled a lot anyhow so it was no problem for him to pack up and tell his live in that he was going on a business trip.

I would always want to see a man’s place before heading into a relationship and what is way weirder is that he has not even given you an address! The same thing happened with me then and of course I was not suspicious so I never asked.

He also texted every evening but this is not a problem for a man in most cases. Calling he did not usually do but I guess a man can always make an excuse to go down to his car or whatever, when my boyfriend I lived with cheated on me he did just that and then he was calling his other girlfriend.

He doesn’t have a car but I guess he could sneak out to call.
He was brought up Muslim and he has told me previously that a couple of his house mates are Muslim. I am white western and I do not currently follow any faiths although I respect people who do. Do you think this could be a reason for him not inviting me. Could he be worried what his house mates would think?

You’ve probably just hit it – the Muslim thing. If it’s not that, then he has financial problems. I don’t sense he’s married or involved with anyone else. This isn’t going to work, sorry. Let go.

What gets me is the fact that 3 times he has agreed for you to come to his place and 3 times he canceled. Why even make the promise to start with? Especially the 3rd time? There are way too many red flags here. It’s possible that he has a girlfriend/wife long distance back where moved from recently. Especially since you haven’t seen him in two weeks and he was out of town the previous weekend. You really need to have a conversation with him about what makes him too uncomfortable for you to come to his place. Because let’s face it, even if you give the guy the benefit of the doubt and say he doesn’t have a girlfriend and it’s the Muslim issue then if he’s too embarrassed uncomfortable to have you around his housemates do you really think he’s going to introduce you to his friends and family? Has he introduced you to any of his friends and family BTW?

Also, I would add, that if you are looking for a long term relationship that is headed toward marriage, this man will likely not be able to offer that, unless his parents are not religious? I know from experience and have muslim guy friends….they date white american girls, but eventually end up marrying a muslim girl to please their family.

This isn’t the case with everyone, but something to consider.