He won't set time and place for date

You tell him that’s lovely and you’d like to meet him too but since he didn’t make concrete plans with you you’re busy now for the weekend….
Tell him he sounds super great etc etc etc blow smoke up his arse and keep him on the hook – but until he makes definite plans, be sweet and do abso – bloody- lutely nothing!
Get man balls 😎

Real men set a time and place for a date a few days out.

Men can and do make plans. They make plans with their buddies, plan camping trips. They make plans with women they are legitimately interested in dating.

Tinder boys are their own breed. They won’t make plans because they hope a better swipe will come up to make plans with. Or maybe their old FWB will respond to their “u up?” text. I would not bother making another request for plans- because they will, when pressed, make plans that they won’t keep.

Either he steps up with a time and place in advance or you move along.

My opinion is you’re a dime a dozen—just one of many he’s ‘chatting with’ and aren’t really all that special than the others. Unless you truly stand out from the pack; a total knock out or have an outstanding profile; you’re just one of the hundred pictures he views on a weekly basis. If you are going to date online you need to have really tough skin and a have a good weeding process so you don’t waste time on flakes like this guy, which are a dime a dozen too.

Do not allow men to waste your time. Your time is PRECIOUS and if an online stranger can’t set a time to meet you within a few exchanges, not weeks of ‘chit chat’ then you walk away from these time wasters. Your problem is you don’t give a guy any incentive to ask you out because you give out way too much information about yourself for free online! There’s two dating words you need to know: one is “mystery” and the other is “intrigue” which are two major components in proper dating that sadly is being dismissed today.

You need to give little bits of information about yourself, while ON THE DATE, and if a man finds you to be interesting or you pique his interest, he will be compelled to keep asking you out to get more of it. To put it bluntly you aren’t giving men any incentives to meet you because you ‘chit chat’ too much for free. Learn to be a mystery novel!

Also, don’t put all your eggs online. Really need to meet men in many different situations such as when you’re out and about (shopping, grabbing lunch at the counter, getting your oil changed, activities, etc.); at a friend’s party; through friends/family (aka blind dates) because if you limit your options then your options will be limited in finding decent men.

I have a feeling he will not get in touch to fix the plan. if he was serious he wld have atleast told you that the day and time is locked. in terms of venue he cld have said lets discuss in the morning of the date day and figure what works. I have done this many times when the date is being planned. as in sat evening is locked. lets figure where on sat morning. in your case I will be very surprised if he does get in touch to make plans.

My suggestion is to stop all the chatting before a date. It causes women to have a false sense of familiarity and they get attached before the date even happens.

Remember this is a total stranger and he needs to prove to you he is worth your time.

I’d give him until tomorrow and if he didn’t confirm the plans then you make plans for the weekend. You’ve already asked no point in bringing it up again. Should he call you after the fact tell him since you hadn’t heard from him you made other plans. If he is still interested he will make actual plans with you.

Since you met on Tinder he is probably talking to other women weighing his options for this weekend. Basically putting you on stand by.

Well she is completely wrong about me and my dating habits. I was only asjing why women think a man may behave likr this. Not for people to jump to conclusions on how i go about dating and respond to that

He called to confirm plans. I told him unfortunately i already confirmed plans with friends. Maybe another time

Another TROLL post specifically to take jabs at me when all the others essentially told you th same thing!! Keep trolling the internet for duds then.

If he doesn’t at least set a time, then you don’t really have a date. You should be hearing at the very least, hey let’s meet at 7, I’ll pick a restaurant or find something for us to do and let you know in the next day or two.

And what a bunch of smoke, he’s so excited he can’t sleep. I think you did the right thing by blowing him off. I’d be totally done with him at this point since he didn’t confirm. Just another Tinder F***boy.

@Lane is right, you’re one of many he’s talking to and he’s keeping his options open. @Khadija is also correct, you shouldn’t spend so much time conversing before you meet, sets up false expectations. One or two chats is enough. Then just meet for a drink, first dates shouldn’t go longer than two hours.

Shay, yes that was my feeling too. He wants me to reserve my whole day while he refuses to set an actual time so he can see what better comes along, be free to do that and fit me in where it suits him

Then he wants to come over to my house and chat and see what else happens. I.e. have sex

Definately not the behavior of a man who really likes you. So i blew him off

I missed the part about coming over and chatting! I thought he confirmed the week-end date with you on Wednesday, which seemed reasonable to me, but now I agree with your decision to blow him off.