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Anonymous Queen
The background about this guy is that we met through OLD and have been on 2 dates on 4th Feb and 10th Feb.
The good things about him are:
– He has paid for 2 dinner dates without any hesitations
– Didn’t complain when I made him wait 30 minutes for a date because I had to work overtime
– He is a very successful person and is dedicated to his career
– He cooks and cleans for his friend, a flatmate (potential high-value trait?)Bad things are:
– Doesn’t text between dates, only asks when I’m free to “hang out” again
– Makes jokes that he finds funny but are rude towards me. I made it clear that it was mean. He apologises but blames his friends for always making these jokes.
– Shares weird and unattractive things about himself jokingly and says that “I’m such a bad charmer. These are not things you should say on a date!”
– On Valentine’s Day, he texted me “you free tomorrow?” no hello/good afternoon, greeting, or Valentine’s wishes, I replied that I was busy until Sunday. He doesn’t respond until 2 days later “I should be free sunday, wanna get lunch or brunch or something?”Is he playing games with his texting? How should I reply? Is there anything I can do to make him step up his game and be more high value?
Or, do you think he is low value and not worth my time anymore?AngieBaby
Why don’t you trust yourself and your own instincts enough to make this decision yourself??
Raven
He sounds like a clod head… What is his age?
Is he old enough to know better?
There is an online male dating ‘coach’ for lack of better words that tells guys that texting is ONLY for arranging dates. It’s also the same guy that endorses ‘negging.’
Hopefully this guy isn’t one of his students…
Liz Lemon
What Angiebaby said. How do YOU feel about him? Do you want to see him again?
From what you’ve said, he makes rude jokes about you, is uncommunicative, and says “weird and unattractive” things. So what if he’s paid for 2 dates and has a good career if he’s a jerk?
To answer your question, no, you can’t make a guy step up his game. A guy has to WANT to impress you.
You should go with your gut on this one. But I can assure you there are guys out there who are attentive, considerate, responsive, AND pay for dates and have a good career. No need to put up with this guy if his personality turns you off.
Liz Lemon
I’ll add– if you’re already considering dumping him after 2 dates, that tells you everything you need to know……
Honesty Rocks
Its a bit much after 2 dates you are analysing and questioning so much. I would say go with the flow a bit and see what happens. In dating and in life. I mean how can he be playing games after 2 dates ? And valentines really after 2 dates this is not valentine stage by any mean.
tammy
i think i agree with Honesty Rocks. just give it some time and see how things go provided you feel you should explore this a little more before downing the curtains.
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