He's cheating on his GF with me

Oh what a cad! He’s getting everything he wants and you’re cool with it. He’s a snake, a cheat, a cad. I’m sure if his girlfriend knew, she’d think the same. He’s getting his needs met, and you’re silly enough to think he’d leave his relationship for you. Why would he? He gets sex with you and his girl st the same time. Wake up! These guys are a dime a dozen!

Men or women may leave a relationship because they’ve fallen for someone else but not because they’re having sex with someone else. It’s only casual sex, whereas he has an emotional connection with his girlfriend.

And yes, I think some people can love one person and have sex with another at the same time. Not a very nice person admittedly, but it happens all the time. The most obvious example is men who love their wives but still visit prostitutes.

You say it’s hard not to act on your feelings but you are doing that every day. You’re not telling him how you really feel and you’re hiding what you’re doing from your computer workers. You also will have to act normal and friendly to his girlfriend when you see her. So you can hide your feelings in these situations but not when it comes to letting a guy use you for easy sex while his girlfriend is away?

As you’re already experiencing, the more time you spend with him, the more attached you’re going to be. I would end this now before you get really hurt. He’s never going to be with you so you’re going to have to end it sooner or later unless you want to be his side chick for the rest of your life.

If you’re unsure, ask him where you stand. I’m sure he’ll make it clear to you he just sees you as a bit of casual fun but I could be wrong.

Hi had been dating a man for almost nine months now. One time i caught him texting with his ex. Nothing sexual but i felt betrayed and asked to break up. He begged me to give him a last chance, he cried so much. I forgave him but the betrayal was hard on me so i we fought pretty much all the time and i reminded him of that incident. We stayed together, but for the past three months we were arguing even more. My boyfriend asked for space. He said do not call me unless i do, do not text unless i do and do not come to my house. He texted everyday to ask how i was and i tried to respect all this for a while but i felt emotionally drained as he kept his responses very cold. I decided to try the no contact rule but i failed terribly. I drunk called him, we got into a fight and we exchanged insults, but i was really bad on him. I even showed up to his house and exchanged more bad words. After the fight i really apologized and tried to show him what a good girl i have been, he agreed and says he knows i am a good person and he also recognises i put alot of effort in the relationship but he said he can not be with me because i disrespected him. he said had enough and decided to break up with me. Like any other stupid girl, i went pretty hysterical and begged him to give a chance one more month. He said okay he will give us a chance. While we were talking i also asked him if i should take my stuff from his house he said no. I left the house and since then we have not talked. On Sunday was his birthday i sent him a very short birthday note and he responded thanks. After that i went into the no contact rule because i needed heeling my self and hope that he might want me back. My sister called him (totally unrelated issue) and he picked up and spoke well. But it feels like he has moved on. He is now on a business trip do i have any chances to get him back?!

Why do you get yourself into this situation that impacts your professional life.

Mixed pleasure with business in generally not good. Where is the pleasure now?

I hope you are smart enough to not do it again and I hope you take it as a very good lesson because you paid for it.

Find another job, don’t bother with this man. He will cheat again…