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Hello, I need some advice because I’m feeling lost and I can’t understand his behaviour. Or maybe I should say I don’t know if it’s something I’m doing or just that he’s not interested.
I started seeing this guy beginning of march 2021. I live in Italy so we’re in a lockdown. I see him once a week at my or his house.
In the beginning he was sweet and kind of lovebombing me… he immediately gave me a nickname, but I didn’t (still I haven’t).
In the last two weeks I have seen a decrease in messages and attention given. I don’t want a man that texts me every 2 hours, but a message once a day just to check in is appreciated.
Yesterday evening he was at my place. At the beginning he was super cuddly and attentive. As the evening progressed he became more and more distant…
This morning I said “Will we be able to see each other this coming week?” and his response was “We’ll see…”
What? The evening before he hugger like he didn’t want to let me go and in the morning this was his response?
I said nothing.
My question is: what should I do? Should I confront him about it? Should I just let him be and wait for him to ask me “out” again?
Thank you for reading!Raven
Confront him, please no…
Take a step back.
Ewa
He should be asking you out not the other way around, I understand it has been a month or so but you will only know if he is interested if you wait for him to message you. He might be meeting you because he has nothing else to do since you are in lockdown, but most likely will disappear when things reopen – happened to me as well…
maybe , we’ll see, I will let you know – you really don’t need a man like that in your life.
Forget about himElly
Yeah, that’s what I thought… but I needed to hear it from somebody else. My brain keeps telling me it’s my fault… it might not be!
I should value myself more. That’s the difficult part about dating.Ewa
trust me I’ve been there too, most women have really and that is the hardest part of dating , when we like someone but they are not really that keen, but then again you should be thankful that you didn’t waste more of your time on this guy
T from NY
It is the difficult part about dating! Also that so many of us are amazing women with fierce leadership qualities and are independent and capable. But when dating men, feminine energy is most productive. Agree you need to step back, do not initiate. Even if youve liked this guy, be turned off when ANY man acts tepid. Women tend to focus on the good. But hot-cold usually means – not the right man for you.
Elly
Thank you everyone… I really needed to hear what I was thinking. He was full of sweet words but his actions didn’t reflect them.
I was convincing myself it was all my fault because I wasn’t attentive or caring enough… but how can I be when he puts me second (not even that!) in his life? -
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