He’s liking his ex’s pics

Yes, it means it is a very recent breakup and love does not disappear over night. You have only known this guy for a month you know he was in a recent breakup so that right there are 2 reasons you move with caution and see his actions with you.

What I am concerned about is your insecurity and the fact that you are already looking for information on his on his ex-girlfriend (and making comments about her “thirst trap type pic”).If you feel he is not over his ex then say something and do something (such as just being friends with him) because it is worst on you to continue look for clues that he is still interested in his ex. IMO I think he is not over her and within good reason they just broke up and on friendly terms so right now he is probably confused on what he wants and you should not be in the middle of his dilemma.

Ewa,

He broke up with her because she wanted children and he doesn’t (he’s divorced and has children). I don’t want anymore children either as I’m divorced and have kids as well.

I am sure this is hard to see. That said, if they broke up over such a big life preference, then I wouldn’t worry about it.

I had a situation with the last guy I was serious about before meeting my husband. We were off an on for about 7 months because I wanted a partner and he wanted few trappings. That said, we were pretty compatible, so that’s why it was so off and on. One of us would think we could change, we’d get back together and realize we couldn’t. I had planned a birthday party for myself and had invited my ex even though we weren’t technically together at the time. In the meantime, I had gone on about 9-10 dates with my now husband and spent a fair amount of time on the phone with him, and it had become awkward to -not- invite him to my party, so I did because I was really developing feelings for him. And in the meantime, he had had a date with someone a few days before my party. But in the end, he wanted what I wanted- to merge his life (and his son’s) with someone else’s. It all worked out because my ex couldn’t come to the party anyway, and that was that. I still only have positive thoughts about my ex. We are not friends on social media because once I got serious about my now husband, I stepped away from my ex. My husband did the same with a very toxic, codependent friendship he’d had. And it wasn’t even a discussion. We just fit, so we set boundaries.

So, don’t make judgements so quickly about him liking her pics. You’ve only been going out a month. You have no idea how that behavior will change (or not) when you’re technically bf/gf. Just try to relax and not overthink things. Good luck!

I agree with you Lilly. I’m not sure if I would continue to see him right now if I was in this situation.

Although wanting/not wanting children is a life choice that can’t be bridged, I feel he is still in love with her. If that’s the real reason for their breakup, I think he’s still pining away for her. Especially when he says “sometimes love is not enough”.

Plus it was only a month ago.

I’d steer clear because I think you have entered rebound city here. Sorry.

Any selfie is a thirst trap? I suggest you work on your judgy skills and maybe try to vamp up your life so you are not jealous about that, we judge what we think we are missing. You are mixing up your jealously and judging her for being different than you. It is not a good look. I suggest you pay attention to if he talks about her a lot. If so, that is creating actual distance and needs a discussion.