He's obviously into me,why won't he flirt?

Ps I feel like giving up and moving on. Everyone keeps saying give it time,don’t give up he really is into you. But I’m feeling myself starting to fall for him and I don’t want to get hurt.

Yes I do and he would always flirt back until a few months ago when he bagan to show a more romantic interest in me.
When one of his friends flirt with me. He’ll lecture them and me he’ll say we’re being “inapropriate”.

How old are you both? This sounds very immature to tell friends he is into you but not tell you.

He is very shy or afraid of rejection or concerned with something. But whatever his reasons you can’t go after him, this is just not right!

If you want to be very forthcoming you can smile and joking ask him why he is flirting with you and yet never calls you. If he doesn’t tell you why, at least in some ways, and doesn’t make a move after that stop being welcoming to him and move on. If there are no specific reasons and a guy is that fearful then…? Note that he might need some time to “ripen” up to the occasion, so don’t rush and jump the gun. Talk to him and give it 2-3 weeks before you write him off.

Next time he stares at you with those puppy dog/lovesick eyes, ask if he would like to go for a drink/coffee with you.

If you are friends you need to ask him how he feels about you. It seems to be going on for a long time. Ask him if he has feelings for you and ask him if he wants to go to lunch or some thing casual just the two of you and see how it goes

I told him exactly how I felt. I said he gives off the impression that he has feelings for me and yet he flirts with everyone except me.
I said at one time you and I were practically inseperable. We rarely went more than a week without talking. Then suddenly it all stopped. What happened? He said I don’t know.
I said some of our mutual friends say you have feelings fot me,others say you only want me around for the ego boost.
He got mad and said “yes,yes that’s it I only want you around for the ego boost.” I’m a monster just like your friends say I am. So you should just stop talking to me. Okay?
I said we’ve known each other for four years. You’re not a monster and I refuse to believe you only keep me around for the ego boost.
His response you need to understand when not to cross that line. You’re always crossing that line,pushing that boundary.
My response. I have no effin idea what you’re talking about. He said yes you do. I said,I can’t help who I am. I’m a big ball of emotions I love everyone and everything. I love talking to people and getting to know people and when I make friends,those friends are loved.
He said “need I remind you,your late fiance was my best friend?”
I said why do you look at me like a love sick little boy? Why do you look at me like you want to take me on the spot?
He didn’t answer. I said well you won’t answer me,I don’t know what else to say or do. I guess that’s it then. No response from him,so I left..he was obviously hurt. I could tell by the look on his face,but I gotta protect myself too.

One of HIS friend just shot me a message and said. “I got to understand,he does care about me,he cares allot,but his pride gets in the way of his emotions.” He let himself become emotionally involved,he let his guard down. He doesn’t like letting his guard down.
I didn’t reply.

I think you need to just let him go. It seems he does have feelings for you but since your late fiance was his best friend he feels he would not be loyal to their friendship if he had a relationship with you. He said emotional and spiritual and feels like a relationship with you would not be right. Distance yourself from him and his friends

Well he flat out told you how he feels. He does have feelings but he’s never going to cross that line out of respect for his dead friend. What more do you need to know?

@Jilly yes he is emotional and spiritual.
Distancing myself from him is easier said than done. We have a ton of mutual friends. We are around each other all the time.
I don’t want all of this BS. I never thought of him as anything other than a friend,until he became more attentive towards me,wanting me to stay over when we’d hang out. Making excuses to talk to me etc. That’s when I started to fall for him. I never let my feelings known.

When it was time to go home,he would pull me in tight and say do you have to go? he’d hug me he’d let out little groans of frustration.
I’d just ignore it.

He came over to my place and we had another talk. He said I’m crossing lines and boundaries etc,I’m trying to get him into bed. I said I’m not trying to get you into bed,I never said anything to you or treated you any different than my other friends male and female.
That proceeded into a long lecture of how I interact with my guy friends,my celebrity crush etc. You’re always hugging everyone,telling everyone how special,sweet,beautiful,handsome they are. You’re always telling people you love them. I said WTF is wrong with that? He said “it’s crossing a line”.
I said I will not aplogize for being me. I will not change who I am.
I said,you’ve known me for four years and all of a sudden you have a problem with my love and support for my friends? My unconditional love for them?
He said thats crossing boundaries,its crossing the line,you’re always pushing that envelope.
I said fine,then you go your way,I’ll go mine. Don’t worry,I won’t hug you,tell you you’re awesome ever again. He said yes you will. I said no I won’t I think you should go home.
I walked him to the door,he leaned in to hug me and I moved away.
This morning a gang of us got together for breakfast before work. When I arrived I gave everyone a huge hug except him. He looked hurt. When we all parted I hugged everyone again. He grabbed a hold of my arm and pulled me in for a huge bear hug. I said “oh you mean I get a hug??” He gave me a forlorn little “yes”. I said nothing more. My (gay) guy friend laughed and said “he’s so into you”. I said well guess what? It aint gonna happen.

Let me translate this from man to woman language for you. He thinks you act slutty.

On top of that he has an issue with you being his dead friend’s girlfriend.

He doesn’t wanfbto be with you. He’s made that clear. Leave him alone and stop playing with him. Maybe if you were calmer and less dramatic, he’d change his mind.