He’s went silent?

Oh this is a hard situation. When you love a man and he’s acting weird, even ignoring you. Makes your stomach hurt. There are a lot of good articles about when a man pulls away, and what you should do about it, on the internet. But what I will say is – men do go through things and get quiet. And it has nothing to do with you. Also most men don’t want to hurt women, especially a woman they have been dating a long time, so if they are unhappy in the relationship they may also pull away – get cowardly – and not say what’s going on, until the woman gets so frustrated she sparks a heated convo that can lead to breaking off. OR some men want the woman to just do the breaking up because they are too afraid to say how they’re really feeling and do it themselves.

End of the day – you have no idea! And it’s super okay for him to need the space. But it’s NOT OKAY for him to leave you in the dark for two weeks now (or more if he’s still not responding). Being in a committed relationship there is an appropriate expectation of communication. I would try to call again, at a time you know he would be able to talk. If he doesn’t answer send a text asking him to let you know when y’all can chat. If he completely ignores you – this is just a deal breaker full stop. But if you do speak you can let him know how much you care, but that you’ve noticed something is up and ask him if you can schedule some time to spend together later in the week and you’ll let him be for now. Tell him if there’s anything he wants to talk about – you’re completely open to it. One of the most important things is to let him feel safe and comfortable talking to you. The more calm, drama free, and unemotional you are – the better odds he may open up.

Keep us posted. I’m sorry you’re going through this. But remember you deserve someone who communicates most of the time, even when times get tough. Also someone who will support you in your career, just as you would in theirs.

I can only imagine how hurtful this is and I know you must be sad. I encourage you to feel those feelings and not try to push them away. Agree completely not to reach out again. But I also encourage you to find your anger when you can. You deserve better treatment and more respect than this. He’s being awful, and a coward. For your sake, if he does make a reappearance and try to get back in your good graces I hope you dont rug sweep all this. He’s done it once, he’ll most assuredly do it again. Thinking of you

Hey Monica sorry this is happening to you, it’s painful especially when you have been in a relationship with someone for a year.

This guy sounds like his head is no longer in the relationship, it’s definitely somewhere else, where you are not.

He is definitely in the process of ghosting you. All those communications you initiated was him doing the slow fade on you. Now he’s in the wind, any attempts to communicate with him, will end in frustration, emptiness and anger on your part.

He is hoping that you somehow take the hint and do the dirty work for him, i.e break up with him.

You can’t arrange a meet up with a ghost, he will flake and it won’t happen. You can’t ask him what going on if he won’t reply your messages in the first place. Pretty soon he won’t be taking your calls too if you try to call him.

If he can’t give you anything, not even an it’s over or this is not working out then it’s time to consider going your separate ways.

He’s already checked out emotionally, and you should probably check in Heartbreak Hotel, something no one wants to do until we find ourselves getting the key card to a room.