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Miriam
I started working at a medical clinic last month. This medical student started chatting with me regularly & I started to like him. At first it was mainly about his yrs as a med student and then his family in Brazil.
Anyway lately all I hear are his complaints about everything under the sun. The altercation with a driver when he rode his bike in, the fast food clerk gave him the wrong size of coffee, various patient criticisms like their monotone voice or how much time they took giving a urine specimen. Zbd the list goes on ….
Today he asked me to go for lunch or capaccino after work.
We are in a small office and hes tight with the supervising Dr. who is also my boss. I dont want to date him or listen to anymore of this. How can I turn him down without hurting his ego? I don’t want him complaining to my boss & causing problems.
The receptionist before me was let go which I was told due to conflicts with this med student.
Tallspicy
If there is a work rule about fratinization, tell him as an excuse, if not….
“Thank you so much for asking me out, I am very flattered. Unfortunately, I have a rule not to date coworkers. It can end badly and I keep a strict work/dating separation. “
Or “I am seeing someone”
Then, if he gives you a problem, report him to hr.
kaye
I can’t really tell if this guy is asking you out or just sees you as a friend and needs someone to vent to. I’m sure there are a lot of stresses being a med student and maybe he doesn’t have anyone else he can talk to and relate.
If you don’t want to go just tell him you already have plans for after work. If you blow him off enough times he will get the point. If you do get the feeling his intentions are more romantic than friendship I would let him know you don’t date co-workers especially in a small office! And seriously not dating someone you work with should be a hard and fast rule.
K
What everyone else said and remain focused on your work!! Don’t worry about his ego, he’s a big boy. You don’t want to go the way of the last receptionist so stay busy and do what the others said about handling requests for time together outside the office.
Miriam
Thanks for responses. I am not seeing anyone but I will say I am. Reading his eye contact it looks like he may possibly want more.
The main point is that his cussing is wearing me down. I feel exhausted after each discussion. By end of my work day dealing with customers and him, I feel wiped out. There is nowhere really to hide away in our small office.
I dont want to lose my job so I have to avoid conflicts with him. Frankly i dont much like him now and further talks just turn me off. I understand he has stresses but I’m not his GF, wife or counselor. If he has an ego my showing disinterest may irk him.
I can easily make up an excuse not to go out after work. It’s the negativity in the office that will continue to kill me.
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