His pic with another girl on fb crushed me

Thank you! But what should I do right now? Nothing? Don’t even mention it next time I see him(if there is a next time..)? Can I just casually mention something like: how’s your weekend or I saw your tennis pic on fb, how was it? Do you think I can ask something like this to him or simply just don’t say anything?

To be honest, I am pretty painful right now, and you are right: I don’t know where he stands but I am already emotionally invested, what should I do in my situation?

I am so pissed because he never posted any photos with me on fb and now he is posting this! I feel so helpless and sad right now..

Take a few steps back and calm down.
I still would not ask about this woman because you’re emotional and that anger will come out.
I know it’s hard but, you’ve really got to take back control of yourself. Don’t give this guy and a picture all this power.

Thank you! I won’t ask him about this woman, but do you think I could talk to him about our relationship status? Like what are we now? I really want to know.. Or do you think I should wait? I have this sense that if I ask, he won’t agree to be my boyfriend anyways.

Hell there,

Please give me some advice. It happens almost same to me. Ive dated this guy for six months and we are boyfriend/girlfriend already. We had a fight because he was really mad of having conversation to me and he was not in a mood and always busy. So I understand him in everything because he is an athlete that represents our country. In 1 whole month which is or sixth month is giving full of patience to me and understanding then I tried not call for 3 days then he fight with me again because he reason out his past attitude of me but he didnt listen to me and the effort that I did for him.

Then I didn’t call him for almost a week that was august already then one night I called him and he said sorry in everything he said to me and everything he did and he said you know how much I love you and he said he loves me so we meet last Saturday we were so sweet and I feel loved then he sudden said to me that he just want me to give him a time he wants to be free in short he doesn’t want to attached. He wants me to be single which I feel like really hurt but I tried to respect him and I want to give my break to my self too but I did not tell that to him he said he loves me and Dont rush things between me and him and he told me that he will see me tommorw too. Then Sunday which we supposed the day we meet again he just answered his phone at night he said he was with a friend or friends. Then after minutes I browse Facebook then it appears his picture with a girl its not a sweet post but he was out of his character to post a pic with a girl because in our relationship he never post a pic on Facebook of our pic only in instagram. So when I see that I sudden cry and become really sad I feel betrayed and I just hope. I really love him and I Dont want to lose him

I never do anything after that. I never confront him. What will I do? I never chatted him or text him about asking Whos this girl or is that a friend or ur new? But deep inside I am really jelous because I respect him as an athlete that his Facebook is not a love life matters for him but then I saw a pic with wacky post of them and a smile caption!

I didn’t text him until now its only 2days ago when I see that. I quietly check the girls Facebook and theyre not even friends in Facebook the reason I get hurt too because I saw a comments saying “love life” then there’s telling “that’s nice cous you can introduce that to your mom” I was really get hurt bout the pic after that day I never text or call I was just think what did I do wrong or is there anything bad that I did juts him to do that. Thats in my mind but i didnt confront him to make him feel contollable or whatever annoying or awkward act. I dont know now.What will I do?

Eva, that happened to me. Was with a guy for over 4 years. Our connection was an exclusive sexual connection. We spent w/e’s together every once in awhile, had a 3 day w/e during a Holiday and it was great. Then this blonde in his compkex showed up. I didnt know it at the time of the 3 day w/e. After that 3 day w/e he got distant with me. I tried reaching out to him as a friendly “hi” and he would ignore it. I told him it was best that he not contact me anymore! Then the picture on Facebook showed up. Yes, it hurt but I knew what he was doing. He did want her but he knew down deep it was not going to work. She was 20 years younger. We did get back together and he did tell me about her and it was a friendship because he also met her parents who like him because he could watch over her. Pictures of them appeared on Facebook a lot but I knew how he was. He was never close to her. He was mad at me. So what. We continued and then he asked me out to meet his close friends. We had fun. He introduced me to the blonde, her father and we were off to another bar. The blonde was freaked out. So she shows up at the bar while we are there, her Mom shows up and the guy I am talking about gets up to talk the Mom, introduced his friends to the Mom and not me. The blonde family leaves. The four of us take a group photo of us. Me and the guy very close. The night ended and I thought maybe things were moving along. Nope! He posted the picture of the 4 of us and edited me out of the photo. Ouch! But I just let it go. He thought he was going to get into a relationship with this blonde. To keep other details out of my story the blonde eventually got engaged shortly after that ouch moment. He was pissed as he should of because he was delusional. He remains single.

So, my question to you is: do you want a relationship that might lead to marriage? If so, be ready for this type of behavior until you can figure out how to capture his heart.

It is wrong what he did. I hate Facebook just for that reason. He can show the public that he is fine while you are so hurt.

Please don’t contact him until you feel better! I’m sorry!!

Calm down. You don’t know who this girl is and she is most likely just a good friend or a family member. Guys that are still looking around to meet someone and getting to know someone won’t post pictures of a girl that he’s just fooling around with as that might scare off other potential girls. That is just my opinion.

You guys are not exclusive yet you are acting like his girlfriend. If you want this guy to run then by all means, ask him about the girl or mention the picture. He will know that you were snooping, no amount of trying to sound casual will fool him.
And for the love of all that is holy DO NOT bring up the “what are we” conversation. That should be left to the guy. By doing this you will be the one pursuing him, which is not the woman’s role in a relationship. You are the prize.

Just forget about it. Go out, have fun, you had a life before he came along, so get to it. If you don’t hear from him again then it wasn’t meant to be, nothing you can do about it.

Maybe you should start going on dates with other cute guys.

Altex- this is a very old post

Agree with Pandora he is possibly testing you , say nothing , carry on as normal and it will be revealed in time who she is xx

I was very jealous when I saw that picture but I think it wasn’t because of my feelings, it was just my ego.. I always thought of him as someone whom I can call and he’ll come over to give me pleasure. Now that’s gone, he can be with someone who actually understands him. I think I should feel happy for him. What do you think ?

Raven : actually sex with him was very good, however I was feeling so awkward outside the bed. The overall relationship lacked sincerity. In time, having sex with him stopped being fun because of how I feel outside the bedroom.
And actually he was already seeing another girl. So I guess the feeling was mutual..

Ashley,

You settle for sex with that guy knowing you feel no chemistry.

You try to end it and he is rude with you.

And now what? You feel jealous because of the picture ?…. Jeez.

Sounds like you both were in a placeholder relationship. You settled for far less than you wanted.

You can be happy for him. You can move on to someone who gives you more that sex. You wasted enough time on him.

I understand.

But in life if you want great things to happen, you have to take risks. And be courageous enough to face the outcome.

You deserve far more than that guy.